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How to Melt the Wall Between Parent and Child

Parents become very frustrated and worried when their children no longer share their thoughts, feelings, or events in their lives. A wall develops and yet it can be melted. The length of time required to melt the wall depends on how deep the divide between parent and child has become. The good news is that your perseverance can create a reconnection. Some walls are thin. With these walls, as soon as you start the...

Parenting Communication Blocks Quiz

Keeping Lines of Communication Open Practice Lines of communication can be opened or closed depending on the listener’s response to the speaker. When we listen beyond the words to the feelings and thoughts the speaker may be trying to express, we can build a bridge of empathy that feels respectful and supportive to the speaker. When we respond with our own feelings or thoughts rather than acknowledging the speakers, they can...

Highly Sensitive Child Parent Questionnaire by Ela...

I think Elaine Aron’s book is wonderful and I encourage you to buy it if you have a highly sensitive child. Her questionnaire below will help you decide. By Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. author of the highly sensitive child – Helping our children thrive when the world overwhelms them. Please answer each question as best as you can. Circle True if it is true or at least moderately true of your child, or was for a substantial...

Finding Solutions with Your Kids Using the Collabo...

Finding solutions can be challenging. Maybe you don’t know how to start the process, or your children won’t respond, or even if you do develop a plan, their enthusiasm wanes quickly, and you’re left feeling discouraged. You can successfully solve problems together when you pick a challenge or request that both of you have an invested interest in solving and follow my 5 Step Joint Problem Solving Process.  Challenge examples...

The Art of Listening Between Parents and Children ...

In the summer issue of Parenting on the Peninsula magazine, my article, The Art of Listening Openly, is published. Most parents just don’t know how to listen without giving advice, commanding, placating, interrogating, distracting and other communication blocks. I invite you to read the entire article. Here is a beginning teaser: Children’s emotions can often surge and be difficult for them to understand and for us to...

Uncooperative Daughter Becomes Helpful and Loving ...

I’m a mom of an 11-year-old girl. Because of parenting challenges, I came to Cynthia for private parenting help to learn how to reduce my daughter’s jealousy of family members, to understand each other better, and to eliminate rude interactions. Even though, this is a lot to change, I was determined to learn what to do differently. I consider my daughter strong-willed which means that she won’t talk to me...