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I’m Teaching My Son to Regulate His Gaming Time

Posted by on Feb 15, 2017 in Parents Success Stories | 0 comments

I’m Teaching My Son to Regulate His Gaming Time

I struggle with setting limits on IPad use with my 9-year-old son. Usually, I tell him to stop and he would keep asking for more time. I would think how ungrateful he is, that he should follow the rules, and why can’t he stop when it’s time? Cynthia and I discussed how I could calmly set the limit. I took her advice and added on a twist. My son knew that he has one hour each day during the weekend to play his electronic games. When the time was up I said, “Times up.” I didn’t get into arguing or getting mad. Sometimes he asks to play a little...

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Ally Parenting Book Table of Contents by Cynthia Klein

Posted by on Jan 28, 2017 in Cynthia's Book Excerpts | 0 comments

Ally Parenting Book Table of Contents by Cynthia Klein

Ally Parenting – A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation by Cynthia Klein Publication date: February 2017 Table of Contents  Introduction to Ally Parenting How to Use This Book – A Quick Start Approach Finding Your Solutions Action Process – A Step-by-Step Guide Section 1: The Ally Parenting Approach – Your Parenting Role Ask the Right Parenting Questions to Find the Right Parenting Solutions Are You an Ally or an Adversary? The Adversary to Ally Transformation Approach Self-Knowledge is the First Step Toward...

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Parenting Communication Blocks Quiz

Posted by on Jan 28, 2017 in Parenting with Emotional Intelligence | 0 comments

Parenting Communication Blocks Quiz

Keeping Lines of Communication Open Practice Lines of communication can be opened or closed depending on the listener’s response to the speaker. When we listen beyond the words to the feelings and thoughts the speaker may be trying to express, we can build a bridge of empathy that feels respectful and supportive to the speaker. When we respond with our own feelings or thoughts rather than acknowledging the speakers, they can feel disrespected and hurt which usually leads to communication shutting down. Examples of communication blocks are:...

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Highly Sensitive Child Parent Questionnaire by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.

Posted by on Jan 26, 2017 in Parenting Effective Discipline, Parenting with Emotional Intelligence | 0 comments

Highly Sensitive Child Parent Questionnaire by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.

I think Elaine Aron’s book is wonderful and I encourage you to buy it if you have a highly sensitive child. Her questionnaire below will help you decide. By Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. author of the highly sensitive child – Helping our children thrive when the world overwhelms them. Please answer each question as best as you can. Circle True if it is true or at least moderately true of your child, or was for a substantial time in the past. Circle False if it has not been very true of your child or was never true. # My child………….. 1 T F...

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Parents: Be Your Child’s Emotion Coach For Greater Cooperation and Connection

Posted by on Dec 15, 2016 in Cynthia's Book Excerpts | 0 comments

Parents: Be Your Child’s Emotion Coach For Greater Cooperation and Connection

Preview chapter from my upcoming book Ally Parenting – A Non-Adversarial Approach To Transform Conflict Into Cooperation. The Emotional Support Process is an essential parenting skill for creating open communication and influence with your child during their emotional moments. Depending on your child’s nature, their expression of feelings may range from intense displays to refusal to acknowledge you. No matter where your child falls on this emotional continuum or which parenting role you’re using, the Emotional Support Process, or the...

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10 Fears That Keep Us From What We Want

Posted by on Dec 10, 2016 in Guest articles | 0 comments

10 Fears That Keep Us From What We Want

Guest Post by Joann Riggio, MFT , www.jgriggiomft.com  Fear can be paralyzing and it can prevent us from doing what we want most in life.  Even when we know exactly what we need to do, fear can be the barrier we place between ourselves, and our ultimate goals.  This article illustrates 10 Common Fears that plague many.  Often these fears begin early in our life or they can result out of negative experiences. As a Psychotherapist who values helping people reach their best potential, I help my clients explore where their fears originated and I...

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Are You An Ally Or An Adversary Parent To Your Children?

Posted by on Dec 6, 2016 in Cynthia's Book Excerpts | 0 comments

Are You An Ally Or An Adversary Parent To Your Children?

Interacting with your children can sometimes feel like walking on eggshells where any comment or action could crush the “egg,” causing a gooey mess. Cleaning up after conflicts is challenging and time-consuming. To avoid the need for cleanup, I recommend learning how to interact with your children as an ally rather than an adversary. An ally parent knows how to build greater influence than an adversary parent. Approaching family interactions as an ally will create more cooperative and peaceful relationships between family members for a...

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Ally Parenting- A Path from Conflict to Cooperation The Book Introduction

Posted by on Nov 9, 2016 in Cynthia's Book Excerpts | 0 comments

Ally Parenting- A Path from Conflict to Cooperation The Book Introduction

Do you have a child who ignores you when you give directions, or argues with you like an attorney trying to change your mind, or refuses to talk to you other than with a few words or grunts? If you do, then Ally Parenting – The path from conflict to cooperation is for you. Each of these challenges creates a painful wall between you and your child that can melt away with an Ally Parenting approach. Ally Parenting is the synthesis of twenty-two years of teaching parents through private parenting consultations, classes, and speaking engagements....

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How to Melt the Wall Between Mothers and Daughters

Posted by on Oct 23, 2016 in Cynthia's Book Excerpts | 0 comments

How to Melt the Wall Between Mothers and Daughters

The mother-daughter relationship is particularly challenging because both sides desire and value emotional connection, whether it’s negative or positive. Because of this deep desire, when circumstances erode the emotional connection, both parties feel hurt and can resort to unhelpful language and actions that further the divide. However, even after a wall has developed, I have guided many mothers with daughters ages 8 to 18 through the process of melting the wall. The length of time required to melt the wall depends on how deep the divide...

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Ally Parenting: How to get through walls….gently! coming in December

Posted by on Oct 4, 2016 in Cynthia's Book Excerpts | 0 comments

Ally Parenting:  How to get through walls….gently!  coming in December

Do you face any of these painful parent-child walls with your children? Do your kids… Ignore you? Argue with you? Refuse to share with you? If this sounds familiar, then Ally Parenting: How to get through walls…gently is the tool you need. Through the Ally Parenting approach, you will master the parenting skills, wisdom, and confidence to gently melt down those tough walls. In this book, you will learn the exact language you need to: Handle emotional moments Give directions that are followed Solve problems together Create family unity and...

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