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The Five Principles of Ally Parenting
Parenting expert Cynthia Klein’s coaching, training, and presentations revolve around her Ally Parenting approach, which contains five principles:
1. Focus on building a life-long relationship with your child.
2. Deepen your connection with your child through empathy and support.
3. Create family harmony using influence, not control.
4. Collaborate with your child to solve problems together.
5. Embrace parenting challenges as opportunities for personal growth.
A Message from Cynthia
Are you a parent who is feeling stuck and maybe even at the end of your rope? I’m Cynthia Klein and I can help you learn how to break the negative cycles you may be caught in and create a happier family.
If you want more cooperation, respect and to simply enjoy your children more, let’s talk! I can easily determine the causes of your challenges and quickly get you on the road to successful interactions.
If you want to transform your family interactions from a tug-of-war to a harmonious dance of cooperation, let’s start today!
Ally Parenting in Action
Listen to excerpts from my presentation at the Mountain View library titled Encouraging Responsibility. It’s key to connect emotionally to children in order to influence them and encourage greater responsibility with an approach such as the After-Then Strategy.
The Emotional Support Process
Mastering the Emotional Support Process will help to create deep connections with your children. When you know how to listen and support in a way that feels real to your children, they will always come to you during difficult times. This allows you to become their anchor in life as you teach them how to be resilient and resourceful adults.
When children are upset, they will continue expressing their views when you respond with specially formatted empathetic phrases. These are not phrases stating that you understand. The goal of your responses is only for your child to feel safe and accepted so they can release the tensions in their limbic system, which results in thinking clearly and solving problems.
The After-Then, or Work before Play, Strategy is one of the most effective for directing children to start or stop what they are doing. Once you have learned what an empathetic phrase is, you can add this additional step to effectively direct your child to follow a limit or rule up through the teen years.