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Ally Parenting Book Table of Contents by Cynthia Klein

Ally Parenting Book Table of Contents by Cynthia Klein

Ally Parenting – A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation

by Cynthia Klein

Publication date: February 2017

Table of Contents 

Introduction to Ally Parenting

How to Use This Book – A Quick Start Approach

Finding Your Solutions Action Process – A Step-by-Step Guide

Section 1: The Ally Parenting Approach – Your Parenting Role

Ask the Right Parenting Questions to Find the Right Parenting Solutions

Are You an Ally or an Adversary?

The Adversary to Ally Transformation Approach

Self-Knowledge is the First Step Toward Change

Soft Power Creates Cooperation, Not Conflict

Child Rearing: An Opportunity for Personal Growth

Your Childhood Impacts Your Parenting

Choose Your Parental Role: Director, Collaborator, or Supporter

Section 2: Creating Open Communication

The Emotional Support Process Connects You to Your Child

Awareness of Communication Blocks is the First Step

Empathetic Responses Improve Connection and Communication

Why Kids Reject Our Help – And How to Win Their Trust

Parent Success Stories of Using Empathetic Responses

Section 3: Understanding Yourself and Your Child

The Key to Making Positive Parenting Changes Stick

Problem Solving Together Requires Flexible Thinking

Why Children Do What They Do – It’s Not About You

The Strong-Willed Child: Attitudes and Common Power Struggle Triggers

How to Melt the Walls Between Mothers and Daughters

Supporting the Easily Distracted Child

Section 4: The Director Role – Setting Limits and Boundaries

Choose the Discipline Path for Family Harmony

How to Give Directions that are Followed (The” Just-the-Facts” Approach)

Director Parenting Role: The After-Then Strategy

Stop Negotiating and State the Limit Clearly

Your Personal Boundaries Create Appreciative Children

How to Set Your Family’s Electronics Use Guidelines

You Can Keep Video Games From Overtaking Your Family

The Importance of Chores and How to Get Them Done

Dad Sets Clear Expectations and Learns to Use Empathy

Parent Success Stories in the Director Role

Section 5: The Collaborator and Supporter Roles: Solving Problems Effectively

Teach Children How to Successfully Handle Life’s Challenges

How to Find Solutions with Your Children: The Collaborator Parenting Role

The Three Levels of Collaborative Problem Solving

Why “Why” Doesn’t Work and Other Unhelpful Questions

Family Meetings Build Cooperation and Family Unity

The Collaborative Parenting Role: Managing Sibling Conflicts

Choose Supportive Problem Solving Rather Than Directing

How to Be Your Child’s Trusted Supporter and Confidant

The Supporter/Confidant Parenting Role: The “Boredom Problem” Example

Parent Success Stories About Solving Problems


About the Author

©2017 Cynthia Klein, Bridges 2 Understanding, has been a Family Success Coach since 1994. She works with parents and organizations who want more cooperation, mutual respect and understanding between adults and children. Cynthia presents her expertise through speaking and private parenting coaching sessions. She works with parents of 5 – 25 year-old children.

To learn how Cynthia can help you solve your specific challenges, contact Cynthia at,,  or 650. 679.8138 to have a complementary 45-minute discovery session. Why keep suffering? It’s time to change!

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