Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation
By Cynthia Klein – Available now at many online book sellers. Search for Ally Parenting- Cynthia Klein to find soft-cover, $20, and eBook, $9, formats to purchase.
Table of Contents
Introduction to Ally Parenting……….1
How to Use This Book: A Quick-Start Approach……..7
The Step-by-Step Solutions Guide……….11
Section 1 – The Ally Parenting Approach – Your Parenting Role
- Ask the Right Questions to Find the Right Parenting Solutions…….33
- Are You an Ally or an Adversary? ………….37
- The Adversary to Ally Transformation Process ………….41
- Self-Knowledge Is the First Step Toward Change…………47
- Soft Power Creates Cooperation, Not Conflict ………….53
- Child Rearing: An Opportunity for Personal Growth ……….59
- Your Childhood Impacts Your Parenting ………….65
- Choose Your Parental Role: Director, Collaborator,or Supporter …………69
Section 2 – Creating Open Communication
- The Emotional Support Process Connects You to Your Child …75
- Awareness of Communication Blocks Is the First Step …81
- Empathy Improves Connection and Communication …….85
- Why Kids Reject Our Help – and How to Win Their Trust …93
- Parent Success Stories of Using Empathetic Responses ….99
Section 3 – Understanding Yourself and Your Child
- The Key to Making Positive Parenting Changes Stick ……..117
- Problem Solving Together Requires Flexible Thinking …….121
- Why Children Do What They Do – It’s Not About You ..125
- The Strong-Willed Child’s Attitudes and Power Struggle Triggers …….133
- How to Melt the Walls Between Mothers and Daughters …139
- Supporting the Easily-Distracted Child ……….143
Section 4 – The Director Role – Setting Limits and Boundaries
- Choose the Discipline Path for Family Harmony …………149
- Give Directions Kids Will Follow ……….153
- Add Connecting to Improve Directing …..159
- Director Parenting Role: The After-Then Strategy ……….163
- Stop Negotiating and State the Limit Clearly ……………..167
- Your Personal Boundaries Create Appreciative Children ……173
- How to Set Your Family’s Electronics-Use Guidelines ………177
- You Can Keep Video Games from Overtaking Your Family ..183
- The Importance of Chores and How to Get Them Done ….191
- Dad Sets Clear Expectations and Learns to Use Empathy …..197
- Parent Success Stories in the Director Role …………………..203
Section 5 – The Collaborator and Supporter Roles – Solving Problems
- Teach Children How to Successfully Handle Life’s Challenges ..213
- Finding Solutions Together: The Collaborator Role …….219
- The Three Levels of Collaborative Problem Solving ……227
- Why “Why?” Doesn’t Work and Other Unhelpful Questions .231
- Family Meetings Build Cooperation and Family Unity …….235
- The Collaborator Parenting Role: Managing Sibling Conflicts .241
- Choose Supportive Problem Solving Rather Than Directing …249
- How to Be Your Child’s Trusted Supporter and Confidant ….255
- The Supporter Parenting Role: The “Boredom Problem” …263
- Parent Success Stories About Solving Problems …………..269
Acknowledgments ………..283
About the Author…………..287
©2017 Cynthia Klein, Bridges 2 Understanding, has been a Family Success Coach since 1994. She works with parents and organizations who want more cooperation, mutual respect and understanding between adults and children. Cynthia presents her expertise through speaking and private parenting coaching sessions. She works with parents of 5 – 25 year-old children.
To learn how Cynthia can help you solve your specific challenges, contact Cynthia at bridges2understa.wpstagecoach.com, , or 650. 679.8138 to have a complementary 45-minute discovery session. Why keep suffering? It’s time to change!
