Building Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection?
- My parenting actions are based on the belief that “I am emotionally and physically available” for my child as much as possible. Connection Comes First.
- The relationship between me and my child is more important than being right all the time.
- Listening to all of my child’s emotions with love and concern instead of disapproval and disinterest, will build a strong bond of connection between us. Examples: Fear, hurt, frustration, joy, excitement, apprehension, content, afraid, surprised, confident.
- I will believe in my children’s potential and joyfully encourage them even when their capabilities seem to be hidden or dormant at the moment.
- After I listen, then my child will be able to think clearly and make better decisions.
- Our family strives to support each other as we solve problems either individually or together. We believe in each person’s intelligence and ability to think according to their age and level of maturity.
- We are creating a home that is an oasis of support, warmth and rejuvenation.
- We all have strengths and challenges that can be acknowledged.
- No one is perfect and I shouldn’t expect my child to be perfect.
- I can share some of my own personal growth with my child as an example.
©2013 Cynthia Klein has been a Certified Parent Educator since 1994. She works with dads, moms and organizations who want more cooperation, mutual respect and understanding between adults and children of all ages. Cynthia presents her expertise through speaking, webinars, and private parent coaching sessions. She is a member of the National Speakers Association and writes the Middle School Mom column for the magazine Parenting on the Peninsula. Contact Cynthia at bridges 2 understanding, bridges2understa.wpstagecoach.com or call 650. 341.0779.