When my daughter was young, I knew she had a mind of her own. She wasn’t going to do things to please me. I know that some parents use the “this would help me” approach to getting kids to follow directions. It may work when some kids are young yet it will quickly fade as…
We all want children who appreciate us and aren’t spoiled. I’ve written another post about setting boundaries as an essential strategy to make sure you are not taken advantage of. When you are taken advantage of, it’s because you have allowed this to happen to you by not setting your own personal boundaries. I encourage…
“Thank you for everything you do for me, mom and dad. I really appreciate you.” (Grandpa, Nona, etc.) How many of you hear these words from your children and teens on a regular basis? If you do, you have rare children, your kids are grown, or you have learned how to teach your children to…
A successful family to me is one where all members feel respected and accepted. Cooperation is built because of emotional connection and a commitment to developing healthy relationships. As a result, family members can discuss concerns and solve problems together. When parents need to direct children towards more socially acceptable behavior, it is done with teaching…
When kids gain power by defying you, does your fuse get lit? Do you feel hurt, rejected, disrespected, or devalued and end up yelling? If you go to anger when your child says “No”, you are not alone. A current private coaching client of mine wrote on her intake form, “I just don’t want…
From “NO!” to “Yes” Parenting Challenge every day from Jan. 25 to Jan. 29, 2021 Do you struggle with hearing too many “NO’S” from your kids or too much arguing or are you just being ignored? Imagine having the wisdom of what to say and what not to say so you can successfully win many…
Computer screens, cell phone screens, television screens, and tablet screens are now a part of every day life that we can’t avoid. Problems arise because what we are looking at is so enticing that children, and ourselves, often have a hard time limiting their usage. You may notice some behaviors in your children that cause…
Parents of a 5 and 9-year-old Share Their Success Story. We’ve been working with Cynthia as private coaching clients for a month and we’ve already learned how our language was creating rebellion in both our 9 year-old and our 5-year-old. We were thinking that our children were the problems… Their behavior was challenging, however, the…
There are two situations in which it’s most essential to listen to your children: when you’re solving problems together AND when you’re supporting your child in solving their own problems. Listening to children express themselves builds family connections and develops children’s emotional and intellectual capacities needed for a successful and happy adulthood. However, the one…
Many parents grew up with adults shaming them in order to get their compliance. Therefore, shaming words feel very natural to use with their own children and are often not questioned as to their effectiveness nor impact on their children. Rather than shaming, I reommend parents use the “just state the facts” strategy when giving…
Terms of Use: The articles in my blog are a matter of my opinion and perspective, offered to help stimulate parents' thinking about their child raising and common concerns, conflicts, and changes that typically occur. They are meant to be educational only. Because they are general in nature, they should NOT be used as a substitute for getting qualified professional psychological, medical, or legal help should serious need arise. The resources I recommend are mostly consistent with my parenting approach. Use them at your own discretion as you would my articles. The parents’ success stories are particular to their family situation. This does not mean that you would get the same results. They are to be used for inspiration that by you changing first, you have the greatest chance of creating a positive change in your family.