Many parents grew up with adults shaming them in order to get their compliance. Therefore, shaming words feel very natural to use with their own children and are often not questioned as to their effectiveness nor impact on their children. Rather than shaming, I reommend parents use the “just state the facts” strategy when giving…
As summertime approaches, many parents I talk with express concern about setting time limits on video games and social media, establishing clear expectations, and maintaining consistent follow through. I recommend that rather than telling kids to stop what they’re doing, parents focus on the positive things you expect from your children and the wonderful activities…
Or: How to Follow the Ally Road to Family Collaboration There are numerous forks in the road while you are having a conflict with your child. At each fork, you make decisions about how you will think and act. You can choose the adversarial road that escalates the conflict, or the ally road that de-escalates…
I’m a divorced mom of a 9 year-old daughter and 7 year-old son. I contacted Cynthia for private parenting coaching due to challenges with my 9-year-old daughter. My daughter often complained about her younger brother and needed constant validation that I loved her just as much as her brother. She would frequently get upset, say…
Today at 10:00 am PT,
By Mom of 7 and 9 year olds My daughter, Beth, is 9 and very strong-willed which can lead to intense emotional outbursts. I tend to try and take away her hurt feelings. I’m going through a divorce and my Child’s Advocate has advised me to stop doing this because it isn’t helping my daughter.…
For descriptions and registration links, go to Cynthia’s website Classes at Parents Place are typically small, under 12 people, so questions relevant to the class can be answered. Parenting the Positive Discipline Way (Preschool/Elementary School) – 3 sessions – Wednesdays, March 14, 21, & 28. Parents Place San Mateo 6:30 – 8:30 Winning Kids…
Stop Struggling—Learn How to Turn Conflict into Cooperation—2 sessions (Elementary/Middle School) Wednesday, February 28 and March 7 from 6:30 to 8:30 PM This workshop, based on Cynthia Klein’s new book Ally Parenting, will teach you how to pick the most effective parenting strategy for each parent-child conflict. Once you have the right solution, then voila! You’ll…
I am giving private parent coaching to a couple with a very strong-willed 7 year-old girl. She usually responds with “No” when asked to do anything. If pushed, the daughter will end up exploding and possibly hitting. Everything they’ve tried hasn’t worked. Telling her to calm down and to stop especially doesn’t work. The…
It’s essential for your happiness and your children’s future happiness to teach them the importance of everyone in the house doing chores. Notice I said “teach” not “get your child to”. There is a big difference in your attitude and approach when you teach your children versus expecting your kids to do chores without training. Without training,…