Building Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? Children’s basic nature is to love their parents. When they misbehave they are feeling disconnected and can’t think clearly, they lack maturity or could be trying to reach a goal through negative means. The…
What is your vision of a peaceful home? What does it feel like, sound like and look like? Take a moment to think about your vision. Perhaps in your more peaceful home your kids get along better, perhaps they don’t dawdle in the morning so much or perhaps you are more patient and calm. I…
Imagine you are having a power struggle with your middler. You know, when you feel angry, frustrated, and maybe even powerless because your child is not cooperating. You could even be thinking, “You are so inconsiderate “, “You’re defying me”, or even “You’re trying to test me.” Parents often feel crazy when they are trying…
I have total confidence that a dedicated parent can learn how to create happier relationships with their kids. Knowing that I believe in your ability to grow, I’d like to touch on a difficult subject concerning how parents can get into a negative cycle with their kids. What is your “mantra” concerning your kids? What…
Certain words have a tendency to “poison” communication. They can turn conversations into arguments and escalate emotions to unmanageable levels.Poison words are often used when people are angry or frustrated and they can cause people to lose their tempers or become defensive. You should try to avoid using these words and phrases during negotiations. (These…
Effective Discipline Point # 3: Respectful Jane Nelsen, PhD. has written numerous parenting books that are based on positive discipline. She says that for discipline to be effective; it needs to contain these four qualities. Maintains a sense of connection Is effective long term Respectful Teaches social and life skills which develop good character. Here…
Jane Nelsen, PhD. has written numerous parenting books that are based on positive discipline. She says that for discipline to be effective; it needs to contain these four qualities. . Maintains a sense of connection Is effective long term Respectful Teaches social and life skills which develop good character. Here are examples of discipline that…
Jane Nelsen, PhD. has written numerous parenting books that are based on positive discipline. She says that for discipline to be effective; it needs to contain these four qualities. . Maintains a sense of connection Is effective long term Respectful Teaches social and life skills which develop good character. Here are examples of parenting strategies…
When parents use discipline strategies, they are focusing on a lifelong influential relationship with their children. When they use punishment, their focus is more on temporary control. Adults’ Goals and Attitudes When Using Discipline Discipline: To Create Cooperation with Children Through Leading and Influence. Embrace an ally perspective. See the situation as a “teachable” moment.…
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