I am giving private parent coaching to a couple with a very strong-willed 7 year-old girl. She usually responds with “No” when asked to do anything. If pushed, the daughter will end up exploding and possibly hitting. Everything they’ve tried hasn’t worked. Telling her to calm down and to stop especially doesn’t work. The…
It’s essential for your happiness and your children’s future happiness to teach them the importance of everyone in the house doing chores. Notice I said “teach” not “get your child to”. There is a big difference in your attitude and approach when you teach your children versus expecting your kids to do chores without training. Without training,…
Stop Struggling – Learn How to Turn Conflict Into Cooperation Based on my book, Ally Parenting (Elementary/Middle School Aged Kids) Thursday, November 2 & 9, 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm Parents Place in San Mateo, $80 – $100 YOU WON’T FIND THIS INFORMATION IN ANY OTHER BOOK WHICH IS WHY I WROTE ALLY PARENTING. Imagine a home with…
Media Rules This article is from the Challenge Success website in the section for parents. These are the main points made at the parent education event that they mention below. Do you feel that media is all-consuming and rules your family life? Our Fall 2016 parent education event, Media Rules: Healthy Connections in the Digital Age, explored how…
Life can seem so busy and everyone in a family has different schedules. This makes having a family meeting very challenging. However, unless connection and discussion time is made a priority, the distance between family members will increase and parental influence will decrease. You’ll be running after problems rather than proactively solving problems. So, make…
Are your kids learning the values you want them to when they are on Twitter & Instagram, texting, or playing video games? Your answer to that question may range from “No”, to, “Sometimes”, depending on the amount of time spent on their devices. I propose that we work together to limit our children’s electronics use…
A: The quickest and most direct road to family harmony is through holding family meetings. Today, July 7, 2017, I opened my historic Family Meeting binder and I found an envelope. I had labeled it “weekly chores” and inside were small pieces of paper with chores written on them by my daughter, (except for the special…
An arguing child is one of the most annoying behaviors that parents experience. Rarely are you asking your child to do something unreasonable. You might be asking them to put their dishes in the dishwasher, clean their room, or even take a shower. To figure out what you can do differently to stop the arguing,…
Summer is a great time to teach your children the importance of everyone in the house doing chores. Notice I said “teach” not “get your child to”. There is a big difference in your attitude and approach when you teach your children versus expecting your kids to do chores without training. Without training, you probably…
When you hold regular family meetings, you establish family values of connection, unity, mutual respect, support, and creative problem-solving. If weekly meetings are too much, then set aside time to meet every two weeks. As a result of your sustained efforts, you will build a family in which problems are discussed, each person feels heard,…
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