Parents often present their homework help in a way that won’t be accepted. We feel we are just trying to help. Why is our help being rejected? Often it’s because we have created a communication block. Below are examples of statements that stop the teen from listening because they feel hurt. See which ones you…
Rather than viewing teenage girls challenging behaviors as negative, try to step back and view them as developing into being a young woman. Here are the developmental tasks they are working on. Teenage Girls’ Developmental Tasks 1. Physical maturation « Mood swings from hormonal changes which can cause them to act on impulse. « Their…
I completed a 2 session parenting class at Stanford University today titled Supporting Your Teen. The Stanford Work/Life office provides talks and workshops for their employees. This was my 16th talk on campus. 30 parents attended. Here are quotes from the parents of new skills learned and comments about the class. Recognizing adversarial versus ally…
Today I started my 7 week webinar series. Is My Teen Crazy or Am I? Be the Anchor in Their Storm. Everyone is going to make amazing changes. Continual growth happens when you learn new skills and you practice so you can replace old and ineffective habits. Our theme is Embrace Your Teen. One topic…
Teens and parents can have amazing times together. Also, teens can feel the family is at risk when arguing occurs. Listen to this young mans’ amazing story about his experience with his two moms. WATCH: Teen Will Have You Cheering for His Two Moms | Advocate.com.
Michael Riera has amazing knowledge about teenagers. I highly recommend his book Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. Here is part 2 of 2 parts of a brief summary of his book. From Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers by Michael Riera, Ph.D Writer and psychologist Theodore Lidz, gives a well-rounded description of the adolescent…
Michael Riera has amazing knowledge about teenagers. I highly recommend his book Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. Here is part 1 of 2 parts of a brief summary of his book. From Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers by Michael Riera, Ph.D Writer and psychologist Theodore Lidz, gives a well-rounded description of the adolescent…
I’m reading a marvelous book for parents of teens titled 7 Things Your Teenager Won’t Tell You — And How to Talk About them Anyway by Jenifer Lippincott and Robin Deutsch, Ph.D. The first fundamental principle to to make a promise to keep the conversation going. I have been talking about this for years. I…
Children always need unconditional love. They especially need to feel this from adults when they are judging themselves so fiercely during the middle school years. The middle school years were a pivotal time for my daughter and me. What my daughter needed from me was unconditional love. She was experiencing the developmentally appropriate inner turmoil…
Today, the webinar participants and myself had a great time learning 3 Key Points for building greater cooperation with teens. One mom said the webinar was “a fantastic and powerful talk today.” Soon the 45 minute webinar with power point slides will be available. The 3 Points I covered were: 1. Develop a vision of…
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