Parents can easily get stuck feeling frustrated with their child’s behavior and think their child will never change. Finding themselves thinking that their child is a little too selfish a little too often, uncooperative, careless, out of control, or too emotional…leading to fear that they will always be this way. Good news! Your child is…
Managing the ups and downs of how we feel about ourselves is one of, if not the biggest of our many daily challenges. We are emotional beings and to downplay this fact causes humanity great suffering. So, what do you say when your child says they don’t like themselves, they hate themselves, or they are…
Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive Imagine if you would have had the opportunity to take courses in school on understanding emotions… Getting a leg-up on knowing the reasons behind the emotions you were feeling, how to regulate them, and how to understand emotions…
Summer is a time of decreased stress, i.e. no homework, which can mean less conflict and more time and opportunity to build closer relationships within your family. Here are three ways to start building family closeness right away. Be bold and establish a “No electronics” time for the entire family. This rule applies to everyone…
Listening to Your Kids’ Struggles Without Your “Stuff” Getting in the Way From my experience of teaching and coaching hundreds of parents (plus raising my own daughter), learning how to listen and build connection is the foundation to a harmonious home. When children are upset about an issue in their own life, it can trigger…
Several of my client’s children struggle with anxiety stemming from fears of what might happen. It’s important to note: anxiety can plague children no matter what age they are. This can lead to rigidity and resistance to change even though they will enjoy the next activity. Anxiety is complicated, and it is real. Recently, I …
I’m a divorced mom of a 9 year-old daughter and 7 year-old son. I contacted Cynthia for private parenting coaching due to challenges with my 9-year-old daughter. My daughter often complained about her younger brother and needed constant validation that I loved her just as much as her brother. She would frequently get upset, say…
Listening with Empathy Leads to Daughter’s Optimistic Thinking Below is a letter written to me by a client of mine: Corey. She had a breakthrough with her daughter, (one of two children, ages 7 & 9)…and wanted to share it with us. Hi everyone, My daughter, Beth, is 9 and very strong-willed which can lead…
Parents become very frustrated and worried when their children no longer shares their thoughts, feelings, or events in their lives. A wall develops as a result of this frustration…but it isn’t impenetrable. It can be melted. The length of time required to melt the wall depends on how deep the divide between parent and child…
Keeping Lines of Communication Open Practice Lines of communication can be opened or closed depending on the listener’s response to the speaker. When we listen beyond the words to the feelings and thoughts the speaker may be trying to express, we can build a bridge of empathy that feels respectful and supportive to the speaker.…
Terms of Use: The articles in my blog are a matter of my opinion and perspective, offered to help stimulate parents' thinking about their child raising and common concerns, conflicts, and changes that typically occur. They are meant to be educational only. Because they are general in nature, they should NOT be used as a substitute for getting qualified professional psychological, medical, or legal help should serious need arise. The resources I recommend are mostly consistent with my parenting approach. Use them at your own discretion as you would my articles. The parents’ success stories are particular to their family situation. This does not mean that you would get the same results. They are to be used for inspiration that by you changing first, you have the greatest chance of creating a positive change in your family.