Parents at Mid-Peninsula High School in Menlo Park, CA gathered tonight to learn how to communicate so teens will actually listen to them. As their speaker, i focused on my 3 Step Quick Coaching Process.: Step 1: Stop Blocking Communication Step 2: Listen Openly Step 3: Discuss Ideas The first key point from Step 1…
This past Thursday, October 11, 2012 I spoke at Stanford University on Enhancing Emotional Intelligence in the Family. This was my 11th talk sponsored by Stanford’s Work/Life Program. I based my talk on Daniel Goleman’s 4 areas of Emotional Intelligence. •EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESS •MANAGING EMOTIONS •EMPATHY – READING EMOTIONS •HANDLING RELATIONSHIPS . My focus was on…
We are emotional beings. Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, suggests that our emotional intelligence is even more important than intellectual intelligence to live a successful life. We enter this world interacting from our limbic system which is our emotional center. All feelings are stored there in our long term memory only to be retriggered…
I receive the Six Seconds newsletter. Here is the post to follow for some amazing books for children. I’ll be sharing this information when I speak at Stanford on October 11, 2012 about Emotional Intelligence. Here are this week’s posts from Six Seconds – The Emotional Intelligence Network: 6 Children’s Storybooks Every Emotionally Intelligent Adult…
I believe that staying with upset children, as long as we are safe physically and emotionally, gives them security. It also models the ability to control emotions when the situation calls for control. I don’t believe children will “think about what they have done” when put in “time out” for “bad” behavior. Did you? After…
Listening to our upset kids can be very difficult. Each person is a jumble of unmet needs that can easily be turned into anger. Marshall Rosenberg, author of Nonviolent Communication, encourages us to discern what the unfulfilled need is behind our anger. If your child is having a difficult time controlling herself in public and…
Everyday children experience stressful situations. Challenges such as not getting what they want or feeling that a sibling is liked more can often cause emotions to erupt quickly to the surface. Our challenge is to listen without judgment of “right” or “wrong” or “good” or “bad”. Parents can learn to accept their child’s released feelings.…
If I had a child who would do what I ask, parenting would be so easy. Instead, for my daughter’s first 20 years I had struggled with my internal drive to push my daughter with sheer intense will. I would try to put aside the knowledge that this is ineffective and only hurts our relationship.…
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