Part 2 Breaking Connection: Many of these beliefs are inbred in culture. They do not lead to connection and closeness in families. Which do you want to work on discarding? I am uncomfortable looking at my own shortcomings or asking for support from others. Children are bad and need to be”taught” how to be good.…
Breaking Connection: Many of these beliefs are inbred in culture. They do not lead to connection and closeness in families. Which do you want to work on discarding? I need to control or please my child in order to make her/him into a good adult. Parents are right because they are the adult and…
Building Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? My parenting actions are based on the belief that “I am emotionally and physically available” for my child as much as possible. Connection Comes First. The relationship between me and my child is more…
Building Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? Children’s basic nature is to love their parents. When they misbehave they are feeling disconnected and can’t think clearly, they lack maturity or could be trying to reach a goal through negative means. The…
I am such a strong proponent of the need for and value of developing Emotional Intelligence in our children. But this starts with the adults developing their own intelligence before they can respond with wisdom to their children. Here is an article published in the Applied Psychology, Health and Well-Being Journal on Nov. 28, 2011…
Holidays with our childhood family can bring out many emotions that have been tucked away during the rest of the year so we can function. Old feelings from childhood can emerge almost as strongly as when we were children. Our struggles with our childhood family can help us understand some of the emotional turmoil we…
Understanding our emotions and being able to discuss emotions with our children is key to family connection and happiness. Often, parents did not learn about the range of emotions growing up so being emotionally aware with children can be quite challenging. I gain great wisdom from Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence. I encourage you to read…
I am a big proponent of developing emotional intelligence. I know that because I learned about emotions as an adult, I was able to build a strong emotional base for my relationship with my daughter while she was growing up. Because I had an understanding of and handle on my own emotions, i could keep…
Words about raising children from Daisaku Ikeda, President of the SGI World Wide Organization. World Renown author and poet. From his book A Piece of Mirror and Other Essays. pg 32and 33. Sadly, some parents try to use their children as a means to give expression to their own vanity and pride, trying to force them…
Once we have children our lives change. A couple that was happily married now usually have more conflict. How to raise the children is a point of contention. We may even wonder at times if we were wise to even have children. During times of doubt, I remember how much my daughter has given me…
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