“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled….we are thinking in a way that makes it unlikely to be met.” Marshall B. Rosenberg. Ph.D. In a previous post, Find Out What’s Triggering Your Parental Anger, I shared common parental thoughts that can lead to feelings of hurt and frustration…
I learned about Communication Blocks many years ago when I studied the parenting program Active Parenting by Michael Popkin. PhD. Every private coaching client I have worked with has realized that they consistently block their children’s expression of their emotions. After becoming aware of not blocking communication, the next step is to learn how to…
Do you ever say to your kids, “You make me so mad I could scream” ? You probably are just about to lose it, yet who “made” you mad? When we say this, we are actually giving power of our emotions over to our kids. In reality, what they are doing or saying is triggering…
Why is listening so important? What is all the fuss about? Most parents want to correct their children when they are doing something “wrong” such as saying they don’t like someone. Imagine a world where children were not corrected consistently. Perhaps they would grow up feeling valued and that they actually had something important to…
I see life as a continuous journey of developing my emotional intelligence. Relationships blossom when people emotionally connected. I believe parents play a large part in their children’s emotional development by how proficient they are in listening to and empathizing with their children. This requires parents own continual self-reflection and self-improvement. Daniel Goleman, the author…
Part 2 Breaking Connection: Many of these beliefs are inbred in culture. They do not lead to connection and closeness in families. Which do you want to work on discarding? I am uncomfortable looking at my own shortcomings or asking for support from others. Children are bad and need to be”taught” how to be good.…
Breaking Connection: Many of these beliefs are inbred in culture. They do not lead to connection and closeness in families. Which do you want to work on discarding? I need to control or please my child in order to make her/him into a good adult. Parents are right because they are the adult and…
Building Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? My parenting actions are based on the belief that “I am emotionally and physically available” for my child as much as possible. Connection Comes First. The relationship between me and my child is more…
Building Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? Children’s basic nature is to love their parents. When they misbehave they are feeling disconnected and can’t think clearly, they lack maturity or could be trying to reach a goal through negative means. The…
I am such a strong proponent of the need for and value of developing Emotional Intelligence in our children. But this starts with the adults developing their own intelligence before they can respond with wisdom to their children. Here is an article published in the Applied Psychology, Health and Well-Being Journal on Nov. 28, 2011…
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