Hi Cynthia; When kids are fighting, many parents immediately think as a judge. Who is the perpetrator and who is the victim? In other words, who is guilty and who is innocent. Many times the older child seems to be the instigator because the younger child is weaker and often complains more. And, you may…
Are you tired of being the judge in your home? Example: Child: “Mom, Beth hit me and I’m hurt. Go tell her to stop hitting me.” Parent: “Beth, why did you hit your sister?” And off you go down the path of prosecutor and judge. How did you get in this position, what do…
From “NO!” to “Yes” Parenting Challenge every day from Jan. 25 to Jan. 29, 2021 Do you struggle with hearing too many “NO’S” from your kids or too much arguing or are you just being ignored? Imagine having the wisdom of what to say and what not to say so you can successfully win many…
We each have our own story about racist beliefs we learned. We also have the choice to become aware and either transmit them or NOT transmit them to our children. My story begins with being born in 1953 in Detroit, Michigan. My family soon moved to an all-white suburb. I grew up not knowing anyone…
Learning specific communication tools can make talking with your teen about tough topics easier. In this blog post series, I’ll help you gain greater expertise and confidence during these “tough topic talks” so your teen will be responsive, and you will have fruitful conversations together. … The 7 steps to Creating Successful Discussions With Your…
There are two situations in which it’s most essential to listen to your children: when you’re solving problems together AND when you’re supporting your child in solving their own problems. Listening to children express themselves builds family connections and develops children’s emotional and intellectual capacities needed for a successful and happy adulthood. However, the one…
Many parents grew up with adults shaming them in order to get their compliance. Therefore, shaming words feel very natural to use with their own children and are often not questioned as to their effectiveness nor impact on their children. Rather than shaming, I reommend parents use the “just state the facts” strategy when giving…
A Parent Education Presentation at Mountain View Public Library Cynthia Klein recently gave a parent education presentation at Mountain View Public Library called “Building Your Child’s Self-Confidence and Personal Power.” Cynthia was a joy to work with from start to finish. She answered emails promptly and arrived early for the presentation. As the audience members…
How We Turned Conflict About Video Games Limits Into Cooperation Below is a success story, written by one of my coaching clients after we spent time dealing with a particular issue they were facing with their 12 year old son. .. My husband and I reached out to Cynthia for help with the many challenges…
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