Children Feeling Worthy is a Great Result from Joyful Family Discussions

Where Worthiness Begins

You may be surprised that I’m referencing Jamie Kern Lima’s book Worthy. I believe that whether we feel worthy or not has so much to do with the message we heard growing up. 

And, the messages from your family that you are unworthy will often continue into adulthood. I know from listening to many of you that the hurtful and critical words from your parents have continued as criticism of how you are raising your children. Or, perhaps your partner is criticizing your parenting approach. 

Wherever the “unworthy” language comes from, it hurts. 

How Words Shape Our Inner Voice

Listening to Jamie’s book has clarified how the words I heard were interpreted in my mind of me not being good enough, not worthy just as I am 

Parenting in Past Generations

I’m taking a risk and being open with all of you. The reason is because of my personal grappling with the emotionally hurtful language I heard, I wasn’t “abused” in the technical term. The style of parenting in the 50’s and 60’s from parents born in the 20’s and 30’s did not value emotional connection. In fact, parents would say how it didn’t matter if their kids “liked” them or not. What mattered was that they obeyed.

A Moment That Changed Everything

I remember as an upset teen that my mother didn’t care how I was feeling, A seed was planted in my mind at that time,  that I wanted to understand the impact of language on people. 

I didn’t want to repeat the hurtful words I experienced with my imagined future daughter, partner, friends, and family. 

A Personal Mission Was Born

30 years ago, after finishing teaching elementary school children, I determined to create a more peaceful world. I began by helping as many parents as I could to reduce passing on their childhood hurtful language and actions. Then, to help them learn what to think, say, and do, instead that would create a loving and supportive environment in their families. 

Loving Your Children Isn’t Always Enough

I don’t believe that because you love your children, that you know how to respectfully think about them and interact with them. If you have never experienced having respectful discussions as a child, then how are you supposed to know what to say? 

We know what we experience and learn. Period. There is no magic about parenting. I’ll say again, loving children inside doesn’t mean that you know how to express your love in a way that children feel respected and worthy for just who they are. 

Why I Created the Win, Win, Win Parenting Program

I wanted you to know more about me so you can understand why I created the video-based program Win, Win, Win Parenting. I have gained tremendous life experience and wisdom that I want to share so you can learn new and improved respectful thoughts, beliefs, words, and actions.  Then you can feel confident  http://wwwparenting.com that your words and actions will make your children feel loved for who they are and therefore worthy. 

An Invitation to Continue Your Parenting Growth

I congratulate you for reading this email. If you want to invest a small amount in learning how to be your children’s ally, then I encourage you to invest in the Win, Win, Win Parenting Program. 

Happy parenting!

Cynthia

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