The parenting advice sounded good in the book or from the speaker but on your own, you feel lost. You are not alone in this new parenting challenge!
Parents are in a time of transition from strict punishment parenting to connection-based discipline parenting. You are probably trying to parent differently from how you were raised which is why you are now looking for new strategies. You want a healthier relationship with your kids than you had (have) with your caregivers.
I get it! You don’t have a role model from your childhood to follow so no wonder you are feeling confused and lacking confidence on how to parent in this new way. You can’t put a piece into the parenting puzzle without a well-thought-out formula that gives you the outside frame of the puzzle.