By working with Cynthia privately, I have discovered that creating a stronger connection with my kids is the foundation for all positive changes in the family. I am divorced with a 10 year-old daughter and a 12 year-old son. There is conflict with their father which makes discipline more difficult.
I had developed a habit of giving in to my son’s demands because of his yelling if I didn’t. This pattern started when he was young and I didn’t know what to do. I would resort to saying “You have to ….” and “You should….” as a means to get him to obey. This approach didn’t work and led to more conflict and resistance.
I’ll admit that I am struggling with making changes. I often forget and resort back to my old patterns. I am improving, though, on giving directions, like putting away clothes, and making sure he follows through no matter what it takes. Cynthia has given me the courage and skills to persevere.
What I have learned and am consistently working on is how to create greater connections with my son. Every day I make a point of talking with him. It’s easy to spend time with my daughter and more challenging to connect with a 12 year-old boy.
My son likes talking about computers, science, and health. I have purchased a DVD of the show House, M.D. which he likes and we watch it together. This shared time makes us feel closer and as a result he is more responsive when I ask him for help around the house. I’ll keep focusing every day on finding ways to connect with my son.
I know that I need to change more in order to parent better. I will continue to self-reflect and work on implementing Cynthia’s ideas one step at a time. All my small changes bring about a positive change in the family.
For private coaching or for a parenting speaker, contact Cynthia Klein, bridges 2 understanding, bridges2understa.wpstagecoach.com,
650.679.8138
