I try to control my 14 year-old daughter so I can solve her problems and keep her safe. Isn’t that what a loving mom is supposed to do? That was how I was raised. I need to change and learn how to listen and support my daughter because she tells me so. “Mom, you don’t listen. You don’t understand. You’re not supportive.”
We get into arguments. Cynthia is privately coaching me on a bi-weekly basis to learn new skills. I am learning that when I give advice, command and interrogate my daughter, she gets upset because my hidden underlying message is that she is not capable of solving her own problems.
No wonder she gets mad and says, “You think I am stupid!” Instead, when she comes home upset about friends, I’ve been coached by Cynthia to realize that this is her problem to solve. What my daughter really needs from me is to listen, support and help her come up with her own decisions.
Since I’ve been coached by Cynthia, my relationship with my daughter has been much better. Cynthia has given me hope that I can become a better mother and listener.
Mom of 14 year-old daughter
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About Cynthia Klein
Cynthia Klein’s mission is to contribute to World Peace and building healthy family relationships is the place to begin. As a parenting expert for over 30 years, parents have learned from Cynthia how to communicate more effectively as an ally rather than an adversary. Her unique Family Harmony System teaches parents of 5 and older how to have open dialogue, solve problems together, support one another, and build mutual respect. Cynthia is the author of Ally Parenting and the video-based self-paced program Win, Win, Win, Parenting. She has presented over 700 talks and coached hundreds of parents privately towards greater family connection and harmony. To learn more about her services of coaching and speaking, contact Cynthia Klein at , visit her website at bridges2understanding.com.
