A successful family is a family where growth has the highest value. Growth has more value than what is accomplished or the final “product.” This means that we encourage challenging our weaknesses without judgment. When we can’t change them, the other family members take up the slack and don’t continually ask, “Why did (or didn’t) you do that?
Many people value Marianne Williamson poem about our deepest fears. If God is not a word you use in your spiritual practice, as for me, translate it into a word that works for you. I believe everyone can benefit from her wisdom.
She wrote numerous books including Marianne Williamson on Transforming Your Life.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you NOT to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest
the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us;
it is in everyone.
And as we let our own Light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission
to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.
~ Marianne Williamson
I see parenting as an amazing opportunity for personal growth because of how it brings up our old childhood issue. I believe that the more we can see the impact of our childhood, the more we can be in the moment with our children rather than triggered by our own past. We can then nurture them in their own personal growth.
©2015 Cynthia Klein, Bridges 2 Understanding, has been a Family Success Coach since 1994. She works with parents and organizations who want more cooperation, mutual respect and understanding between adults and children. Cynthia presents her expertise through speaking and private parenting coaching sessions. She writes the Middle School Mom column for the Parenting on the Peninsula magazine. She works with parents of 4 – 25 year-old children. Contact Cynthia at bridges2understa.wpstagecoach.com or 650. 679.8138 to have a complementary discovery session about finding solutions to your challenges. http://wp.me/p2TgAe-No