The Three Levels of Collaborative Problem-Solving Finding solutions together with your children is challenging. Maybe you don’t know how to start the process, your children won’t respond, or even if you do develop a plan, their enthusiasm wanes quickly, and you’re left feeling discouraged. Common Collaborator discussion topics are homework, chores, vacations, getting and having…
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I struggle with setting limits on IPad use with my 9-year-old son. Usually, I tell him to stop and he would keep asking for more time. I would think how ungrateful he is, that he should follow the rules, and why can’t he stop when it’s time? Cynthia and I discussed how I could calmly…
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Ally Parenting – A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation by Cynthia Klein Publication date: February 2017 Table of Contents Introduction to Ally Parenting How to Use This Book – A Quick Start Approach Finding Your Solutions Action Process – A Step-by-Step Guide Section 1: The Ally Parenting Approach – Your Parenting Role Ask…
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Keeping Lines of Communication Open Practice Lines of communication can be opened or closed depending on the listener’s response to the speaker. When we listen beyond the words to the feelings and thoughts the speaker may be trying to express, we can build a bridge of empathy that feels respectful and supportive to the speaker.…
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I think Elaine Aron’s book is wonderful and I encourage you to buy it if you have a highly sensitive child. Her questionnaire below will help you decide. By Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. author of the highly sensitive child – Helping our children thrive when the world overwhelms them. Please answer each question as best…
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Preview chapter from my upcoming book Ally Parenting – A Non-Adversarial Approach To Transform Conflict Into Cooperation. The Emotional Support Process is an essential parenting skill for creating open communication and influence with your child during their emotional moments. Depending on your child’s nature, their expression of feelings may range from intense displays to refusal to…
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Guest Post by Joann Riggio, MFT , www.jgriggiomft.com Fear can be paralyzing and it can prevent us from doing what we want most in life. Even when we know exactly what we need to do, fear can be the barrier we place between ourselves, and our ultimate goals. This article illustrates 10 Common Fears that…
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Interacting with your children can sometimes feel like walking on eggshells where any comment or action could crush the “egg,” causing a gooey mess. Cleaning up after conflicts is challenging and time-consuming. To avoid the need for cleanup, I recommend learning how to interact with your children as an ally rather than an adversary. An…
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Do you have a child who ignores you when you give directions, or argues with you like an attorney trying to change your mind, or refuses to talk to you other than with a few words or grunts? If you do, then Ally Parenting – The path from conflict to cooperation is for you. Each…
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The mother-daughter relationship is particularly challenging because both sides desire and value emotional connection, whether it’s negative or positive. Because of this deep desire, when circumstances erode the emotional connection, both parties feel hurt and can resort to unhelpful language and actions that further the divide. However, even after a wall has developed, I have…
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