I was raised in a culture that emphasizes kids’ academic success. Because of this, I was not taught the importance of parents and children playing together to create emotional bonds. As a result, I constantly told my children what to do to become successful in my eyes. We rarely had fun together. By the time…
DetailsI started working with Cynthia because I wanted to reduce the conflict in my home with my two teenagers. I knew I needed to change how I approached situations and the way I was giving instructions or making “suggestions.” I was really suffering and I didn’t know what I was doing wrong, but whatever it…
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For Ally Parenting strategies to work, children need to feel connected to the adult giving a directive. It isn’t enough for you to just learn, for example, the after-then strategy, to win cooperation. There needs to be a balance between focusing on nurturing and structuring the relationship. There are many situations where parents need to…
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this excerpt is from a newsletter from Denise Pope of Challenge Success. These are her thoughts on schools offering year end awards and assemblies. This is very important. December, 2015 Several administrators at a recent conference asked my opinion on year-end student awards and assemblies. At their schools, they typically rewarded students who had straight…
DetailsIn my experience as a parenting educator and coach, parents who struggle with finding discipline solutions are often approaching their kids from a controlling perspective. They come to me because they have tried every tactic they know to get their kids to comply and they still aren’t successful. They are hoping there is one more…
DetailsCarlmont Parents Nursery School has openings for outstanding educators! Due to family and health issues, CPNS is looking for a new teacher, a new director, and to establish a list of available substitutes. This is an exciting opportunity for the right candidates looking to grow in their roles as educators. We hope that you will…
DetailsA common source of irritation for parents is the repeated “Why?” they get from their kids after they have set a limit. The purpose of this badgering is to get their parents to change their minds. As soon as you do change your decision due to getting worn down, then they are rewarded for their…
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Stress is not all bad. Eustress is positive whereas distress is negative. Eustress, or positive stress, has the following characteristics: Motivates, focuses energy. Is short-term. Is perceived as within our coping abilities. Feels exciting. Improves performance. In contrast, Distress, or negative stress, has the following characteristics: Causes anxiety or concern. Can be short- or long-term. Is…
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Dr. Denise Pope moderates and participates in a Mental Health Panel featuring Stanford Physician Panelists – Positive Responses to our Children’s Distress Signals Common Ground Speaker Series, January 14, 2016 at Sacred Heart Preparatory School– Below is Cynthia Klein’s, Certified Parenting Educator, panel discussion summary. Physicians: Shashank Joshi, M.D. Neville Golden, M.D. School is presenting a tremendous amount…
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Please go to MentalHealth.Net to read the entire article. https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/types-of-stressors-eustress-vs-distress/ Eustress vs. Distress We mentioned it earlier and it bears repeating:stress is not always a bad thing. Stress is simply the body’s response to changes that create taxing demands. The previously mentioned Dr. Lazarus (building on Dr. Selye’s work) suggested that there is a difference…
DetailsTerms of Use: The articles in my blog are a matter of my opinion and perspective, offered to help stimulate parents' thinking about their child raising and common concerns, conflicts, and changes that typically occur. They are meant to be educational only. Because they are general in nature, they should NOT be used as a substitute for getting qualified professional psychological, medical, or legal help should serious need arise. The resources I recommend are mostly consistent with my parenting approach. Use them at your own discretion as you would my articles. The parents’ success stories are particular to their family situation. This does not mean that you would get the same results. They are to be used for inspiration that by you changing first, you have the greatest chance of creating a positive change in your family.