Stress is not all bad. Eustress is positive whereas distress is negative. Eustress, or positive stress, has the following characteristics: Motivates, focuses energy. Is short-term. Is perceived as within our coping abilities. Feels exciting. Improves performance. In contrast, Distress, or negative stress, has the following characteristics: Causes anxiety or concern. Can be short- or long-term. Is…
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Please go to MentalHealth.Net to read the entire article. https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/types-of-stressors-eustress-vs-distress/ Eustress vs. Distress We mentioned it earlier and it bears repeating:stress is not always a bad thing. Stress is simply the body’s response to changes that create taxing demands. The previously mentioned Dr. Lazarus (building on Dr. Selye’s work) suggested that there is a difference…
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Knowing how to successfully support your struggling child is a valuable skill you will use throughout your lifetime. Regardless of their age, you will be a parent whom your children will come to when under duress or making decisions. I believe we can build the greatest connections, sense of security, and thus joy with our…
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A Summer Camp Like No Other Girl’s Leadership’s internationally-recognized residential summer program, founded in 2001 by girl experts and social entrepreneurs Rachel Simmons and Simone Marean, is a summer camp experience for girls like no other. Nestled on the beautiful, rolling campus of Mt. Holyoke in South Hadley, Massachusetts, our Summer Program combines the best…
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Listening to emotions is a fundamental step of problem solving. Problem solving is an essential skill to learn for a child’s self-esteem. They need to feel lovable and capable and this will develop as you problem solve together. Solving problems is not just logical. Solving problems is emotional as well. Trying to avoid your children’s emotions…
DetailsFrom the 6seconds website: Since the 1995 publication of Daniel Goleman’s international bestseller Emotional Intelligence, Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, a global movement has developed to bring “EQ” into practice in businesses, schools, and communities around the globe. How did it start, what does it mean – and where is it going? From…
DetailsFinding solutions can be challenging. Maybe you don’t know how to start the process, or your children won’t respond, or even if you do develop a plan, their enthusiasm wanes quickly, and you’re left feeling discouraged. You can successfully solve problems together when you pick a challenge or request that both of you have an…
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Be an Ally Rather than an Adversary when using the Powerful Director Parenting Role – After – then skit. When I work with parents, I present an approach I call being your children’s ally. You set limits and expectations in a manner that usually feels like you are on their side. They can still get…
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Most parents of strong-willed children find them very challenging. Parents have conflicting desires between wanting easy-going children, so they will do what they are told, and at the same time, strong-willed kids, so they will stand up for themselves and not be swayed by negative influences. Since this duo personality doesn’t exist, it’s best to…
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As a director, you set up structure to guide your children to fulfill their responsibilities when they don’t want to. Even after problem solving together, they may ignore you or resist your reminders. This is the time to use an effective director strategy. The after-then or work-before-play strategy is one of my favorites because it…
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