YOUNG CHILDREN September 2001 Five Reasons to Stop Saying “Good Job!” By Alfie Kohn NOTE: An abridged version of this article was published in Parents magazine in May 2000 with the title “Hooked on Praise.” For a more detailed look at the issues discussed here — as well as a comprehensive list of citations to relevant research…
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I attended a workshop on June 7, 2014, for teachers on SEL, Social, Emotional Learning. It was sponsored by SixSeconds. SixSeconds is an amazing organization with a mission of creating a world where Emotional Intelligence, EQ, is highly regarded and developed. One of the workshops I attended was on Building Growth Mindset Learners in Your…
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On Saturday, June 7, 2014, I attended a workshop on Social and Emotional Learning for Teachers. It was sponsored by 6 Seconds. The workshop on Growth Mindset discussed how more dendrites grow in the brain while learning. Here is additional information on how sleep contributes to increased learning as well. Date: June 5, 2014 Source: NYU…
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I try to control my 14 year-old daughter so I can solve her problems and keep her safe. Isn’t that what a loving mom is supposed to do? That was how I was raised. I need to change and learn how to listen and support my daughter because she tells me so. “Mom, you don’t…
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Homework Issue – Shifting from Doing It Fast Poorly to Slow Well Situation: 8 year old son does sloppy work with homework. He does it quickly when he gets home from school so he can then play. Mom checks his work and makes him redo it. She is frustrated because he doesn’t see the value.…
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“What do you mean you are bored and there is nothing to do? There is plenty to do.” “You can help me fold the laundry, play with your sister or read.” “I buy you all these toys and you just ignore them.” “When I was your age, I would go outside and play. You should…
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Self-Assessment of the Development of the Four Factors for High Self-Esteem in Your Family Only if children’s basic emotional needs are filled, can they learn to like and value themselves. For this reason, understanding our children’s needs is the first step in creating the proper climate for healthy growth and development. These needs can be grouped…
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Often parents are so stressed by time and energy restraints that all they can think of is how to handle the challenge at that moment. The challenge can range from leaving the house on time, getting homework done, getting ready for bed up to not knowing where your teenager is and your teenager is not answering…
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Special Developmental Stages of Girls Ages 9 – 12 Forming an Identity as An Achiever Ages 13 – 16 Skill Building for Self-Esteem Reflection topic: Observe how your daughter is showing you through her actions and words that she is grappling with developing her own identity. Look beyond the tendency to be upset with your…
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The results were quicker homework time. A couple came in for private coaching. One of their struggles is that their 8 year old daughter takes forever to do homework. They wanted her to do it as soon as she got home. She kept not focusing and dawdling, taking much longer than necessary. The mom kept…
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