Original URL: http://life.familyeducation.com/parenting/behavioral-problems/40419.html Nature vs Nurture: Raising Difficult Children You’re Not the Cause, but You Can Be the Solution Eight-year-old Jessica wasn’t an easy child. A bossy, fussy girl with only a few friends, she frustrated and alienated even the people who loved her most. She threw tantrums over seemingly minor issues – “These…
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Look at your own need for power, dominance and control. Can you allow you child power? Work towards being proactive rather than reactive. Keep in mind the behavior goal you are trying to teach your child. Will your actions achieve the desired result? If not, change your behavior, instead of doing more of the…
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Special Time: Key Points Excerpts from Listening to Children, Special Time by Patty Wipfler, www.handinhandparenting.com The practice of giving Special Time to your child is an excellent tool for parenting in difficult times. When we make the time to fully concentrate on our relationships with our children, we satisfy some of the deep needs for…
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Lines of communication can be opened or closed depending on the adult’s response to the child. When we listen beyond the words to the feelings and thoughts the child may be trying to express, we build a bridge of empathy that feels respectful and supportive. When we respond with our own feelings or thoughts rather…
DetailsEffective team parenting is a key ingredient for a happy relationship between two adults. Conflicts over how to raise children without a means to resolve differences can create a deep and permanent rift. The adults in charge need to be flexible, creative, supportive of differences and committed to find acceptable solutions as children mature and…
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The Value of Negotiable Rules and How to Negotiate From Jean Illsley Clarke’s book Growing Up, Again. Also read her book How Much Is Enough? Parents learn to be flexible and responsive to child’s developmental changes. Nonnegotiable rules become negotiable as child matures to adolescence. Child learns to think clearly and to develop responsibility. Child…
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Last night in my Winning Kids Over Without Rewards of Punishments class, a dad shared his fear of showing his kids how he just learned that he needed to improve his communications with them . Another dad had also grown up to believe that sharing emotions and weaknesses would cause him to lose control over…
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If your child isn’t given ways to feel powerful and valuable to you, he may try to gain power and recognition in negative ways. Allow him to help you in ways you choose together (i.e. Grocery shopping, watering plants, writing checks, being in charge of family outings, washing dishes, washing clothes, making a meal for…
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I believe the most important step for parents to take is to understand what they are saying that is shutting down their children from talking.The reason I say this is because understanding what not to say and then what to say instead, has made the biggest impact in my ability to create loving relationships in…
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Tonight I taught a class for mothers on how to keep the closeness with their 9 – 14 year-old girls. This was at the Parents Place which is part of the Jewish Family Services in San Mateo, CA. Here are some key points I covered. Cynthia Klein, Certified Parent Educator, bridges2understa.wpstagecoach.com. Give our girls power…
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