The parent-child interaction is like an equation. In this equation, a= actions, t = thinking, p = parents, c = child. Therefore, the parent-child interaction equation is: (pt + pa) influences (ct + ca). You can only influence your child’s side of the equation by changing your side of the equation. Attempting direct control through…
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Many educators on LinkedIn have asked me about teaching social and emotional intelligence skills to teens. As more learning takes place in group and team settings, many teachers have observed that unless we help them tackle personal and social challenges, many will never fully engage and will not fulfill their potential. The good news is…
DetailsThis article is published in the April 2013 issue of Parenting on the Peninsula magazine. Part 1 of 3. How often have you said the same words to your daughter or son over and over with the same results? The results are that there is no desired change. Maybe your words had an impact when…
DetailsRecommended Book List for Understanding Early and Middle Adolescence Our Last Best Shot, Guiding Our Children Through Early Adolescence by Laura Session Stepp. 2001 This book is unique because the information is based on observations and interviews from children aged 10 – 15. It gives real life family stories and then highlights the positive…
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“How do I get my daughter / son to clean their room?” “How do I get my kids to stop fighting?” “How do I get my child to do their homework and stop chatting on the internet?” Do you notice a pattern from these common questions parents ask? It is “how do I control my…
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Determining Who Makes the Final Decision with Kids of All Ages Before engaging in solving a problem involving your teen, it is very important to first determine who will be making the final decision on what solution to choose. Will it be you, your teen or the both of you together? Whoever owns the problem;…
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These four weapons are from Nancy Samalia’s book, Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma.Even though we may know these tips, it’s always great to be reminded. The other four are in a complementary blog https://bridges2understanding.com/eight-weapons-in-the-war-on-anger/ Which ones do you use? 5. STAY SHORT AND TO THE POINT – Be specific. It’s pointless to tell a…
DetailsFrom Nancy Samalia, Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma Here are the first 4 EXIT OR WAIT: The two most important four-letter words to remember when you are angry are exit and wait. When we are so incensed that we’re about to lose control, exiting or calling time out can give us a breather so…
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“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled….we are thinking in a way that makes it unlikely to be met.” Marshall B. Rosenberg. Ph.D. In a previous post, Find Out What’s Triggering Your Parental Anger, I shared common parental thoughts that can lead to feelings of hurt and frustration…
DetailsI get very frustrated with my 10 year-old son. He is very smart, thinks about ideas and always wants answers to his questions. He also expresses his emotions often which are difficult to hear. Many times I am in a rush and I just don’t have time so I get angry with him. I think,…
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