Understanding our emotions and being able to discuss emotions with our children is key to family connection and happiness. Often, parents did not learn about the range of emotions growing up so being emotionally aware with children can be quite challenging. I gain great wisdom from Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence. I encourage you to read…
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I am a big proponent of developing emotional intelligence. I know that because I learned about emotions as an adult, I was able to build a strong emotional base for my relationship with my daughter while she was growing up. Because I had an understanding of and handle on my own emotions, i could keep…
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Imagine you are having a power struggle with your middler. You know, when you feel angry, frustrated, and maybe even powerless because your child is not cooperating. You could even be thinking, “You are so inconsiderate “, “You’re defying me”, or even “You’re trying to test me.” Parents often feel crazy when they are trying…
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Words about raising children from Daisaku Ikeda, President of the SGI World Wide Organization. World Renown author and poet. From his book A Piece of Mirror and Other Essays. pg 32and 33. Sadly, some parents try to use their children as a means to give expression to their own vanity and pride, trying to force them…
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I have total confidence that a dedicated parent can learn how to create happier relationships with their kids. Knowing that I believe in your ability to grow, I’d like to touch on a difficult subject concerning how parents can get into a negative cycle with their kids. What is your “mantra” concerning your kids? What…
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Today, the webinar participants and myself had a great time learning 3 Key Points for building greater cooperation with teens. One mom said the webinar was “a fantastic and powerful talk today.” Soon the 45 minute webinar with power point slides will be available. The 3 Points I covered were: 1. Develop a vision of…
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Emotional Changes for Children Ages 11 – 13 Source: Your Child’s Emotional Health, Philadelphia Child Guidance Center © 1993 Fears Failure in school, sports or social popularity Looking and acting “strange” Death or life-threatening illness or disease Sex (attracting others, repelling other, being attacked) Being fooled or “brainwashed” Losing possessions, being robbed Sexuality Increased…
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5 Essential Needs of a Teenager A Teenager’s Perspective By Jennifer Klein during her teen years (2004) In 2004 when I was teaching a parenting class about teenagers, I asked my daughter what were teens essential needs. She was 16 at the time. I believe her wisdom is timeless. Support. Anything from going to a…
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Certain words have a tendency to “poison” communication. They can turn conversations into arguments and escalate emotions to unmanageable levels.Poison words are often used when people are angry or frustrated and they can cause people to lose their tempers or become defensive. You should try to avoid using these words and phrases during negotiations. (These…
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Effective Discipline Point # 3: Respectful Jane Nelsen, PhD. has written numerous parenting books that are based on positive discipline. She says that for discipline to be effective; it needs to contain these four qualities. Maintains a sense of connection Is effective long term Respectful Teaches social and life skills which develop good character. Here…
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