On February 6, 2013 I taught an amazing group of parents at Parents Place in Palo Alto, CA. about the connection between emotions and problem solving. We cannot problem solve until we acknowledge and try to understand our children’s emotions. Many parents want to be logical with their children. When their children are upset, they…
DetailsThis is an excerpt from the book A Piece of Mirror and Other Essays by Daisaku Ikeda. The essay title is Raising Children, pg. 32 The positive influence of skillful parents is shown in the life of Thomas Edison, who invented the light bulb, the phonograph, and many hundreds of other items we use every…
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I see life as a continuous journey of developing my emotional intelligence. Relationships blossom when people emotionally connected. I believe parents play a large part in their children’s emotional development by how proficient they are in listening to and empathizing with their children. This requires parents own continual self-reflection and self-improvement. Daniel Goleman, the author…
DetailsHoward Gardner’s definition of intelligence A biopsychological potential to process information that can be activated in a cultural setting to solve problems or create products that are of value in a culture. “This modest change in wording is important because it suggests that intelligences are not things that can be seen or counted. Instead,…
DetailsHow Are You Smart? Here is an easy way to start thinking about your multiple intelligences based on Howard Gardner’s theory. Please note that this is not an authorized evaluation. Just to have fun. Based on Howard Gardner’s theory of Multiple Intelligences (Adult version) Rate yourself with the scale below for the following statements Rarely…
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In my teen webinar series, week 1, we discussed how we need to shift our inflexible thinking to flexible thinking in order to be able to problem solve together with kids. When we stay stuck, then the wall goes up between us and our kids. No solutions can be found. It is up to parents…
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Today I started my 7 week webinar series. Is My Teen Crazy or Am I? Be the Anchor in Their Storm. Everyone is going to make amazing changes. Continual growth happens when you learn new skills and you practice so you can replace old and ineffective habits. Our theme is Embrace Your Teen. One topic…
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Part 2 Breaking Connection: Many of these beliefs are inbred in culture. They do not lead to connection and closeness in families. Which do you want to work on discarding? I am uncomfortable looking at my own shortcomings or asking for support from others. Children are bad and need to be”taught” how to be good.…
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Breaking Connection: Many of these beliefs are inbred in culture. They do not lead to connection and closeness in families. Which do you want to work on discarding? I need to control or please my child in order to make her/him into a good adult. Parents are right because they are the adult and…
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Nebraska Office of Education 6.14.2012 There is overwhelming evidence that a parent’s involvement in a child’s education makes a very positive difference. In the past, often an unstated assumption was made that parent involvement meant mothers involvement. Research shows that the involvement of fathers, however, no matter their income or cultural background, can play a…
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