Most of us experienced disrespectful parenting when we were raised. That seems to be our default strategy. Often parents tell me how upset they get with themselves when they yell, pull their child, or threaten them. The frustration gets overwhelming and they lose it. When we are about to lose it, this means we have…
DetailsJennifer Jones, LCSW, is starting a support group for middlers whose parents are going through divorce. FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL-AGED KIDS 11-14 • Help children express their thoughts and feelings • Increase communication and coping skills • Improve self esteem and reduce internalizing negative behaviors 8 SESSIONS, TUESDAY or THURSDAY, 5:00-6:00 pm March 5 – May…
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Michael Riera has amazing knowledge about teenagers. I highly recommend his book Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. Here is part 2 of 2 parts of a brief summary of his book. From Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers by Michael Riera, Ph.D Writer and psychologist Theodore Lidz, gives a well-rounded description of the adolescent…
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Michael Riera has amazing knowledge about teenagers. I highly recommend his book Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. Here is part 1 of 2 parts of a brief summary of his book. From Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers by Michael Riera, Ph.D Writer and psychologist Theodore Lidz, gives a well-rounded description of the adolescent…
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I’m reading a marvelous book for parents of teens titled 7 Things Your Teenager Won’t Tell You — And How to Talk About them Anyway by Jenifer Lippincott and Robin Deutsch, Ph.D. The first fundamental principle to to make a promise to keep the conversation going. I have been talking about this for years. I…
DetailsBuilding Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? My parenting actions are based on the belief that “I am emotionally and physically available” for my child as much as possible. Connection Comes First. The relationship between me and my child is more…
DetailsBuilding Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? Children’s basic nature is to love their parents. When they misbehave they are feeling disconnected and can’t think clearly, they lack maturity or could be trying to reach a goal through negative means. The…
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Dad Focuses on What’s Really Important: What’s going on with my son rather than what needs to be done. I was experiencing power struggles with my 4 year-old son especially when we were in a time crunch. I would start rushing him and giving him commands to “do it now.” This approach only caused him…
DetailsWhat is your vision of a peaceful home? What does it feel like, sound like and look like? Take a moment to think about your vision. Perhaps in your more peaceful home your kids get along better, perhaps they don’t dawdle in the morning so much or perhaps you are more patient and calm. I…
DetailsChildren always need unconditional love. They especially need to feel this from adults when they are judging themselves so fiercely during the middle school years. The middle school years were a pivotal time for my daughter and me. What my daughter needed from me was unconditional love. She was experiencing the developmentally appropriate inner turmoil…
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