Attitudes and Actions That Build or Break Connections
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Thankful that Children Help Us Grow
Once we have children our lives change. A couple that was happily married now usually have more conflict. How to raise the children is a point of contention. We may even wonder at times if we were wise to even have children. During times of doubt, I remember how much my daughter has given me…
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A Humanistic Approach to Raising Children Parts 1 – 2
Raising Children From: A Piece of Mirror and Other Essays. by Daisaku Ikeda, President of the SGI World Wide Organization World Renowned Author and Poet Parts 1- 2 from Cynthia Klein’s March and April 2012 newsletters. “In order for a child to develop an independent self, it may be necessary at times to discipline…
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Are You Paying Off Negative Power Seeking Behavior with Kids?
Everyone has a need or goal that helps them feel powerful in their lives, especially children. As parents, we have the opportunity and the responsibility to show children how to gain the goal of power positively or negatively. The other four primary goals are: Contact/Attention Protection Withdrawal And also Challenge (for teenagers and older) Being…
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Avoiding and Defusing Power Struggles Between Parents and Kids
We can’t always avoid or defuse power struggles. As human beings, it’s completely natural for us all to succumb to that need to feel powerful from time to time. Some deal with it better than others. It’s important when struggling with issues like this, to first look at your own need for power, dominance and…
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Aesop’s Fable, The North Wind and the Sun, Parenting
Power struggles can be avoided by using the gentleness of the sun rather than the power of the wind. If your child feels that you are trying to control them; that you are not on their side, then the power struggle begins. Each person needs power. We can choose either a soft power approach or…
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Resolve Parent-Child Power Struggle Like the Sun
Aesop’s Fable The North Wind and the Sun illustrates the different results when adults act like the wind versus the sun during a power struggle. Read my other post, Aesop’s Fable The North Wind and the Sun to get the complete story. Here are common power-struggle triggering thoughts along with replacement thoughts that will avoid…
DetailsEmotional Intelligence Related to our Thinking
We can often think that feelings just arise from nowhere. When we look at the Think-Feel-Do cycle developed by Michael Popkin, PhD. we see a different perspective. How we think about an event causes our feelings about the event. Then, our thinking leads to our actions. Too often parents try to change a child by…
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The Kids Are Not Alright (About Teens) by Christine Carter
The Kids Are Not Alright The Kids Are Not AlrightPosted: 05 Nov 2012 12:00 AM PST Generally, I believe worry is a waste of time and energy. For nearly 20 years I battled what was probably an anxiety disorder disguised as perfectionism, so I know what a happiness killer anxiety is. So I rarely write…
DetailsDads Are Changing – Becoming More Empathetic
This article is coming form my perspective as a private parenting coach to several dads. It does not relate to all dads. I want to honor the dads I see changing and share their stories. It all starts with a dad who wants better relationships at home. These dads are willing to ask, “What can…
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