Building Connections: These beliefs and actions build greater understanding and connections between parents and children. How much are you creating connection? Children’s basic nature is to love their parents. When they misbehave they are feeling disconnected and can’t think clearly, they lack maturity or could be trying to reach a goal through negative means. The…
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Dad Focuses on What’s Really Important: What’s going on with my son rather than what needs to be done. I was experiencing power struggles with my 4 year-old son especially when we were in a time crunch. I would start rushing him and giving him commands to “do it now.” This approach only caused him…
DetailsWhat is your vision of a peaceful home? What does it feel like, sound like and look like? Take a moment to think about your vision. Perhaps in your more peaceful home your kids get along better, perhaps they don’t dawdle in the morning so much or perhaps you are more patient and calm. I…
DetailsChildren always need unconditional love. They especially need to feel this from adults when they are judging themselves so fiercely during the middle school years. The middle school years were a pivotal time for my daughter and me. What my daughter needed from me was unconditional love. She was experiencing the developmentally appropriate inner turmoil…
DetailsLeah Davies has done a great job describing 8 areas of Emotional Intelligence learning in the classroom. This is also important information for parents. Perhaps parents could encourage EI training in school? Emotional Intelligence: An Essential Component of Education By Leah Davies, M.Ed. Why do people with high Intelligence Quotients (IQs) sometimes fail and…
DetailsI am such a strong proponent of the need for and value of developing Emotional Intelligence in our children. But this starts with the adults developing their own intelligence before they can respond with wisdom to their children. Here is an article published in the Applied Psychology, Health and Well-Being Journal on Nov. 28, 2011…
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Holidays with our childhood family can bring out many emotions that have been tucked away during the rest of the year so we can function. Old feelings from childhood can emerge almost as strongly as when we were children. Our struggles with our childhood family can help us understand some of the emotional turmoil we…
DetailsNebraska Office of Education 6.14.2012 There is overwhelming evidence that a parent’s involvement in a child’s education makes a very positive difference. In the past, often an unstated assumption was made that parent involvement meant mothers involvement. Research shows that the involvement of fathers, however, no matter their income or cultural background, can play a…
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Understanding our emotions and being able to discuss emotions with our children is key to family connection and happiness. Often, parents did not learn about the range of emotions growing up so being emotionally aware with children can be quite challenging. I gain great wisdom from Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence. I encourage you to read…
DetailsI am a big proponent of developing emotional intelligence. I know that because I learned about emotions as an adult, I was able to build a strong emotional base for my relationship with my daughter while she was growing up. Because I had an understanding of and handle on my own emotions, i could keep…
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