Everyday children experience stressful situations. Challenges such as not getting what they want or feeling that a sibling is liked more can often cause emotions to erupt quickly to the surface. Our challenge is to listen without judgment of “right” or “wrong” or “good” or “bad”. Parents can learn to accept their child’s released feelings.…
DetailsAre you challenged by knowing when to set limits, when to have a “hands-off” approach or when to support the problem solving process? If so, you are not alone. Parenting is an art, not a science. The formula varies for each parent and child combination. Learning the skills and intuition required for supporting the problem…
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If I had a child who would do what I ask, parenting would be so easy. Instead, for my daughter’s first 20 years I had struggled with my internal drive to push my daughter with sheer intense will. I would try to put aside the knowledge that this is ineffective and only hurts our relationship.…
DetailsMy teenager will not: smoke, do drugs, drink alcohol, be sexually active or rude. School, grades and college will be important. What a great fantasy this is! No problems, no hassles and no fear! Instead, what about expecting that your teenager will do drugs, smoke, have sex, be rude to you and drop out of…
DetailsMy teenager will not: smoke, do drugs, drink alcohol, be sexually active or rude. School, grades and college will be important. What a great fantasy this is! No problems, no hassles and no fear! Instead, what about expecting that your teenager will do drugs, smoke, have sex, be rude to you and drop out of…
DetailsIf our children simply did everything we told them, followed the wisdom we handed them, wouldn’t parenting be a cinch? The muddiness inherent to parenting doesn’t come from a lack of love, but rather in not understanding our impact on our children and how to get our messages across. For many years I struggled against…
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