I created a video for a client audience that explains the workings of the rigid self-perpetuating cycle that couples get into driven by attachment needs and fears.
This is one of the central ideas of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, but is not exclusive to EFT It is very accessible, light-hearted and animated (literally). I share it here because many have found it de-shaming and clear explanation of what happens. It can also give therapists an idea of how EFT explains couple distress and the path to improving relationships.
You can view this AMAZING video here:
Shared by :2018 Cynthia Klein, Bridges 2 Understanding, has been a Certified Parenting Educator since 1994. She works with parents and organizations who want more cooperation, mutual respect and understanding between adults and children. Cynthia presents her expertise through speaking, private parenting coaching sessions, and her book, Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation. She works with parents of 5 – 25 year-old children.
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Cynthia Klein’s mission is to contribute to World Peace and building healthy family relationships is the place to begin. As a parenting expert for over 30 years, parents have learned from Cynthia how to communicate more effectively as an ally rather than an adversary. Her unique Family Harmony System teaches parents of 5 and older how to have open dialogue, solve problems together, support one another, and build mutual respect. Cynthia is the author of Ally Parenting and the video-based self-paced program Win, Win, Win, Parenting. She has presented over 700 talks and coached hundreds of parents privately towards greater family connection and harmony. To learn more about her services of coaching and speaking, contact Cynthia Klein at , visit her website at bridges2understanding.com.
