Instructions: Look at the following skills. Check those that are important to you for your children to learn before they leave home. Keep these goals in mind as you use discipline to teach these important skills. This list is created by Elizabeth Crary in Pick up Your Socks, copyright 1990
Personal Care
___ Bathes
___ Brushes & flosses teeth
___ Cares for own clothing
___ Exercises for 40 minutes three times a week
___ Eats nutritious meals
___ Gets adequate sleep
___ Wakes self up in the morning
Personal Safety
___ Knows first aid
___ Plays & works safely
___ Says “NO” to peers when appropriate like drugs, cheating,.
___ Says “NO” to physical or sexual abuse
___ Knows how to safely use public transportation or drive a car
Social Skills
___ Uses good table manners
___ Asks appropriate questions
___ Says “please” and “thank you”
___ Offers seat to older people
___ Leaves other people’s things alone
___ Recognizes other people’s needs and makes room for them
___ Is thoughtful of other people’s feelings
___ Able to get needed information from adults by phone or in person
Meal Preparation
___ Cooks simple meal
___ Cleans up after meal
___ Stores leftovers appropriately
___ Shops for food
Allowances & money management
___ Makes independent purchases
___ Budgets money
___ Maintains a checking account
___ Comparison shops
___ Saves money
Emotional maturity
___ Recognizes other people’s feelings
___ Expresses own feelings appropriately
___ Knows several ways to deal with negative comments and criticism
___ Knows how to nurture self
___ Able to listen to others thoughts and feelings without getting angry
Expression of Anger
___ Recognizes signs of anger in self before “blowing up”
___ Distinguishes between his or her own anger and other people’s anger
___ Knows how to express anger constructively
___ Knows several ways to calm self
2015, Cynthia Klein, Certified Parenting Educator, bridges 2 understanding, bridges2understa.wpstagecoach.com, 650.679.8138. Contact Cynthia for group or private parenting education sessions.