I’m a mom of three children ages 7, 5, and 3.
I contacted Cynthia primarily because of my 5 year-old daughter’s screaming and my screaming in return. I wanted to learn how to discipline my children more effectively so my kids would cooperate. I also wanted a much better relationship with my daughter. I’ve been working with Cynthia for over three months with amazing results.
Cynthia understands the source of my own negative behavior and my daughter’s so she can teach me the best solutions possible.
Because of her parenting education process, I am making permanent positive changes in my interactions with my children.
Here is an example of how I changed my response to my daughter’s yelling and refusal to cooperate.
Recently I was trying to get my daughter to get ready for bed because it was getting late. I was focusing on my fear of what would happen if she didn’t go to bed. She resisted my “coaxing” and was saying controlling statements like, “I’ll come when I want to”, etc.
In the past I would have stayed stuck in my own thoughts and I would have yelled louder and started threatening her with consequences.
If I yelled, she would continue to yell back at me. She might have finally come yet the result would have been an awful feeling between us. I would have been considered the “mean” mommy.
Due to Cynthia’s wisdom and knowledge and my continual practice, this time I was able to stop myself from yelling.
Instead I said, “I’m going to take care of your brother. Come when you are ready.” I walked off calmly and she soon came. She felt powerful and I didn’t engage in the power struggle. I was able to understand myself which led me to managing my own emotional triggers.
This is just one example of how I’ve gone from feeling like I’ll never be able to change,
to actually making changes that feel good and building closer relationships with my kids. I’ll continue to work with Cynthia to create a harmonious home.
To learn more, read How to Raise Strong-Willed Children Using Soft Power.
I am a fan of Mary Sheedy Kurcinka’s books.
One in particular is Kids Parent’s and Power Struggles. I invite you to visit her website to see her 4 amazing books.
Contact Cynthia Klein for private parenting education, to invite her to speak at your organization, or to attend a class. Her contact information is 650.679.8138, www.bridges2understanding.com, and [email protected]