Does the following scenario sound familiar? It’s so painful when your kids/teens shut you out. You value the relationship and you want to feel close but you don’t know how. You try to be an empathetic listener, however, they still get annoyed with you and tell you to go away.
If you feel this way, you are not alone. Learning how to be there for your kids in a way that they appreciate is a challenging skill to learn. It doesn’t come naturally because you love them. Learning how to keep communication open is a skill that can be learned based on your desire to build a supportive relationship with another person. Namely, your children and your partner.
Receiving private tutoring is the fastest way to acquire this invaluable skill. A mom, Brenda, of an 11 and 13-year-old contacted me because her oldest was telling her “Leave me alone.” She was very unhappy about this and wanted to build a closer relationship. Here is her story.
I was struggling with a communication barrier with my 13-year-old daughter. I felt my relationship with her was deteriorating and that I needed to do something about it. I have been reading Cynthia’s emails for many years and I liked her long-range view of parenting so I reached out for help.
Before I worked with Cynthia, when I asked my daughter about school or her day in general, she usually said “Leave me alone.”
What I liked about working with Cynthia was that from the beginning, she made sure that the attitude I had toward this situation was not about fixing my daughter. We identified the root cause and my role in this situation. Then Cynthia worked with me on the language that I used with my daughter, especially how to truly show her empathy so that she could release emotions or frustration.
I read a lot of parenting books so I thought I knew the general parenting approach. However, in practice, I had a few communication blocks that were obstacles to building a connection with my daughter. I tended to defend myself rather than listen to her point of view and I often gave unwanted advice and acted like a know-it-all. This became such a consistent pattern that right away she expected this response from me so she didn’t want to open up.
What stood out in working with Cynthia was that she helped me identify these blocks. She zeroed in on the exact words I used and showed me why they created a barrier. Working with Cynthia was like having her beside me and guiding me so I no longer felt stuck when hearing “Leave me alone.”
Now, I have better clarity. My communication with my daughter has significantly improved and I feel that she trusts me more and shares her stories more readily.
Having a long-term relationship that is built on solid loving connections with my children is so important to me that investing the time and money working with Cynthia for 3 months is one of the smartest investments in my parenting experience. I definitely encourage any parents who struggle with communication with their children to work with Cynthia.
If you struggle like Brenda did or with any other parenting challenge, just reply to this email and let me know. We’ll set up a time to chat and see how you can get your challenges fixed, too.
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