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The Ally Parenting Process to Rebuild Trust and Communication with Your Child

Posted by on Apr 20, 2018 in Communication Skills | 0 comments

The Ally Parenting Process to Rebuild Trust and Communication with Your Child

When your child isn’t talking with you about their challenges, it’s time to reflect on what you are saying that is contributing to their silence. They aren’t trusting you enough to share with you. Rather than trying to get them to open up with questions, which feels like an interrogation, learn about the Supporter Parenting Role. The Supporter Role uses the Supporter Problem-Solving Process to connect with their child and help them make decisions about challenges that are theirs. The parent expresses to their child, “This is your problem to...

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How to Break the Negative Cycle in Couples and Win Together

Posted by on Apr 20, 2018 in Organizations Information | 0 comments

How to Break the Negative Cycle in Couples and Win Together

Many couples have challenges. Sharon Mead, LMFT, has created an amazing video to explain how to create greater harmony in your couple relationship. See her message below. I created a video for a client audience that explains the workings of the rigid self-perpetuating cycle that couples get into driven by attachment needs and fears. This is one of the central ideas of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, but is not exclusive to EFT   It is very accessible, light-hearted and animated (literally). I share it here because many have...

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Books for Children with Anxiety by Children’s Health Council

Posted by on Apr 12, 2018 in Organizations Information | 0 comments

Books for Children with Anxiety by Children’s Health Council

Books That Can Help Children Manage Their Anxiety Anxiety disorders in children are not uncommon; in fact, some studies indicate that as many as 1 in 8 children experience anxiety that impedes their social, personal and academic functioning. Children with anxiety disorders will often try to avoid situations they perceive as threatening or in which they worry they might fail. Because of this, they are likely to miss out on important experiences, and may have hard time forming friendships, and suffer academically. If your child is struggling...

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TODAY, Monday at 10:00 am PST, listen in to Cynthia’s Interview on Positive Parenting

Posted by on Mar 26, 2018 in Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

TODAY, Monday at 10:00 am PST, listen in to Cynthia’s Interview on Positive Parenting

Leadership Skills for Your Most Important Team – Your Children! HI everyone, I invite you to join in to my online interview this morning. Here is the link: My page https://www.voiceamerica.com/promo/episode/104987 10:02 to 10:57 PST Ask questions at 10:20 to 10:40 Here is the phone number you can share with your contacts, friends and listeners that may want to call in during the show:  (866) 613-1612. Thank you for your support. Cynthia Klein, Bridges 2 Understanding, has been a Certified Parenting Educator  since 1994. She works with...

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Listening with Empathy Leads to Daughter’s Optimistic Thinking

Posted by on Mar 20, 2018 in Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

Listening with Empathy Leads to Daughter’s Optimistic Thinking

By Mom of 7 and 9 year olds My daughter, Beth, is 9 and very strong-willed which can lead to intense emotional outbursts. I tend to try and take away her hurt feelings. I’m going through a divorce and my Child’s Advocate has advised me to stop doing this because it isn’t helping my daughter. She recommended Cynthia Klein for parenting support. A key skill Cynthia is teaching me is how to not rescue my daughter and instead listen to her upset, so she can get through it, know she can handle hard feelings, and think better afterwards. I had a...

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Perfect the Art of Setting Expectations and Limits – Parenting Class March 22

Posted by on Mar 17, 2018 in Organizations Information | 0 comments

Perfect the Art of Setting Expectations and Limits – Parenting Class March 22

Winning Kids Over without Threats or Rewards About Elementary School-Aged Children with Cynthia Klein – Certified Parenting Educator Thursday, March 22, 6:30 – 8:30 pm Parents Place Palo Alto, $45 Win your children’s cooperation and discover how to perfect the art of setting and enforcing rules and expectations without the need for punishments or rewards. These strategies will guide your children toward becoming more self-reliant, self-confident, and self-regulating. REGISTER Cynthia Klein, Bridges 2 Understanding, has been a Certified...

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Care for Yourself So Your Children Learn to Care

Posted by on Mar 10, 2018 in Communication Skills | 0 comments

Care for Yourself So Your Children Learn to Care

“I do so much for my children and they just don’t appreciate it. They think only about themselves. Sometimes, I feel like I’m here simply to give them what they want. Why don’t they think about me?” It’s developmentally appropriate for young children to think only of their needs. As their brain develops, they begin to think about other’s needs. To sacrifice their own needs for yours or someone else’s, however may not happen until late adolescence. If you have an unrealistic expectation, you could negatively judge your child and label them as...

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Spring 2018 In-Person and Online Classes and Presentations from Cynthia Klein

Posted by on Mar 10, 2018 in Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

Spring 2018 In-Person and Online Classes and Presentations from Cynthia Klein

For descriptions and registration links, go to Cynthia’s website Classes at Parents Place are typically small, under 12 people, so questions relevant to the class can be answered. Parenting the Positive Discipline Way (Preschool/Elementary School) – 3 sessions – Wednesdays, March 14, 21, & 28. Parents Place San Mateo 6:30 – 8:30   Winning Kids Over without Threats or Rewards –   Thursday, March 22 6:30 pm – 8:30pm   Mothers and Daughters: Connecting and Letting Go (Elementary/Middle School) Thursday, April 19 6:30 –...

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Kids Need Parents On Their Side – Parenting Class Feb. 28 and March 7

Posted by on Feb 24, 2018 in Organizations Information, Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

Kids Need Parents On Their Side – Parenting Class Feb. 28 and March 7

Stop Struggling—Learn How to Turn Conflict into Cooperation—2 sessions (Elementary/Middle School) Wednesday, February 28 and March 7 from 6:30 to 8:30 PM This workshop, based on Cynthia Klein’s new book Ally Parenting, will teach you how to pick the most effective parenting strategy for each parent-child conflict. Once you have the right solution, then voila! You’ll know exactly what to do and improved cooperation is only a few actions away. With Cynthia Klein. Fee includes the purchase of Cynthia’s new book.$100; $60 additional parenting...

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Mom Changes and Defuses a Potential Blowup with a Strong-Willed Child

Posted by on Feb 17, 2018 in Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

Mom Changes and Defuses a Potential Blowup with a Strong-Willed Child

  I am giving private parent coaching to a couple with a very strong-willed 7 year-old girl. She usually responds with “No” when asked to do anything. If pushed, the daughter will end up exploding and possibly hitting. Everything they’ve tried hasn’t worked. Telling her to calm down and to stop especially doesn’t work. The best approach is to first change your own thoughts when you receive resistance so you better understand your child’s goal of their behavior. Start by analyzing the behavior so you...

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