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Kids Need Parents On Their Side – Parenting Class Feb. 28 and March 7

Posted by on Feb 24, 2018 in Organizations Information, Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

Kids Need Parents On Their Side – Parenting Class Feb. 28 and March 7

Stop Struggling—Learn How to Turn Conflict into Cooperation—2 sessions (Elementary/Middle School) Wednesday, February 28 and March 7 from 6:30 to 8:30 PM This workshop, based on Cynthia Klein’s new book Ally Parenting, will teach you how to pick the most effective parenting strategy for each parent-child conflict. Once you have the right solution, then voila! You’ll know exactly what to do and improved cooperation is only a few actions away. With Cynthia Klein. Fee includes the purchase of Cynthia’s new book.$100; $60 additional parenting...

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Mom Changes and Defuses a Potential Blowup with a Strong-Willed Child

Posted by on Feb 17, 2018 in Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

Mom Changes and Defuses a Potential Blowup with a Strong-Willed Child

  I am giving private parent coaching to a couple with a very strong-willed 7 year-old girl. She usually responds with “No” when asked to do anything. If pushed, the daughter will end up exploding and possibly hitting. Everything they’ve tried hasn’t worked. Telling her to calm down and to stop especially doesn’t work. The best approach is to first change your own thoughts when you receive resistance so you better understand your child’s goal of their behavior. Start by analyzing the behavior so you...

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3 Things I Wish Parents – and Teens Knew About Pot by Christine Carter

Posted by on Jan 29, 2018 in Guest articles | 0 comments

3 Things I Wish Parents – and Teens Knew About Pot by Christine Carter

Posted in U.S.News https://health.usnews.com/wellness/for-parents/articles/2018-01-24/3-things-i-wish-parents-and-teens-knew-about-pot?int=wellness-rec We live in California, where marijuana is now, as of Jan. 1, legal for recreational use. My four teens report that pot is already very easy to come by and that “everyone” uses it. More concerning to me: Many of my friends – fellow parents – believe that teen marijuana use is not harmful. Nothing could be further from the truth. First, the good news: Most teens don’t smoke pot or ingest...

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Do You Favor One Child Over Another by Susan Newman

Posted by on Jan 29, 2018 in Guest articles | 0 comments

Do You Favor One Child Over Another by Susan Newman

From U.S. News https://health.usnews.com/wellness/for-parents/articles/2018-01-29/do-you-favor-one-child-over-another If you have more than one child, be prepared to hear – if you haven’t already – “You like him better than me” or “How come she always goes with you?” and “She’s your favorite” or “It’s not fair.” Like many parents, you may insist that the complainer is wrong – that your affection for your children is balanced and equitable. But no matter how hard a parent tries to treat each child the same, your children will...

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Chores are Essential to Teach Responsibility and Apprerciation

Posted by on Jan 28, 2018 in Parenting Effective Discipline | 0 comments

Chores are Essential to Teach Responsibility and Apprerciation

It’s essential for your happiness and your children’s future happiness to teach them the importance of everyone in the house doing chores. Notice I said “teach” not “get your child to”. There is a big difference in your attitude and approach when you teach your children versus expecting your kids to do chores without training. Without training, you probably feel frustrated because you end up nagging which leads to resentment building up and bad feelings by everyone. So, let’s rephrase the question to: How do I teach (train) my...

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How to Build a Lasting Family Bond Through Play

Posted by on Dec 18, 2017 in Guest articles | 0 comments

How to Build a Lasting Family Bond Through Play

Playtime is an important part of a child’s upbringing, as it helps them develop healthy habits. However, kids shouldn’t only be mingling with their peers during playtime. Parents are also encouraged to play outdoors to help build a lasting relationship with their kids. Benefits of playing outdoors Families who play outdoors together become closer to each other. There are many benefits to encouraging your kids to play outside. If you allow your kids more time to play outdoors, you’re allowing them to test their physical limits,...

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How to Encourage Outdoor Family Play

Posted by on Dec 18, 2017 in Parenting - Educating Children | 0 comments

How to Encourage Outdoor Family Play

Since I was a child growing up in Michigan, with woods behind my house, I have felt calmed and renewed hiking amongst the trees. The woods were my playground full of wild orchids and ferns. My husband, Bill, loves hiking as well, so this was a natural outing to do with our daughter. Jen hated hiking. She was bored and would whine about going and ask, “Are we done yet?” Her lack of appreciation for the beauty of nature could have made the trip miserable and I could have given up and not taken her along which translates into not hiking at all....

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Effective Parenting Solutions from Cynthia’s Private Coaching

Posted by on Nov 18, 2017 in Parents Success Stories | 0 comments

Effective Parenting Solutions from Cynthia’s Private Coaching

A testimonial from Andrea and Chris who worked with Cynthia to improve their parenting effectiveness for 3 months. Hi Cynthia! I just wanted to thank you for helping Chris and I communicate better with our kids.  Instead of nagging them over and over, we have found better ways to communicate more effectively to get cooperation. We have learned to think before we speak using the think-feel-do cycle and there’s a lot less raising of voices around the house, which has made for much more pleasant interactions. We have also implemented...

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Kids Have to Turn a “No” Into a “Yes” – Not Parents

Posted by on Nov 9, 2017 in Communication Skills | 0 comments

Kids Have to Turn a “No” Into a “Yes” – Not Parents

Let’s say your child says, “Mom, can I hang out with my friends after school?”, or “Dad, I want my own Instagram account, okay.” What do you say? How do you decide when it’s time to give your child more freedoms? You’ll have around 10 years of granting new privileges so it’s best if you have a system rather than reacting emotionally and just saying “No” to be on the safe side. They’ll just sneak instead, anyways. First, it’s helpful to acknowledge that there is often a clash of needs or goals between parents and maturing kids. Your first goal...

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Ally Parenting Book Chapter: Choose Your Parental Role: Director, Collaborator,or Supporter

Posted by on Nov 4, 2017 in Cynthia's Book Excerpts | 0 comments

Ally Parenting Book Chapter: Choose Your Parental Role: Director, Collaborator,or Supporter

Chapter 8 from Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation by Cynthia Klein In order to guide our children toward success, it’s essential to understand our role in each challenge we encounter with them. There are essentially three parenting roles that you will choose from depending on whether the parent, parent and child together, or only the child will decide how to solve the problem. The Director: Sets rules, guidelines, and expectations The Collaborator: Discusses challenges with children and decides...

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