Listening to emotions is a fundamental step of problem solving. Problem solving is an essential skill to learn for a child’s self-esteem. They need to feel lovable and capable and this will develop as you problem solve together.
Solving problems is not just logical. Solving problems is emotional as well.
Trying to avoid your children’s emotions if they are difficult for you to handle, will make it more difficult to come to good decisions together. I encourage you to avoid saying, “why are you so emotional? It’s no big deal. You shouldn’t be so upset.”
These are shaming statements and will definitely lead to emotional shut down and a lack of belief in them self. Thus, reduced self-esteem.
Here are important articles to read about emotions and problem solving.
©2015 Cynthia Klein, Bridges 2 Understanding, has been a Family Success Coach since 1994. She works with parents and organizations who want more cooperation, mutual respect and understanding between adults and children. Cynthia presents her expertise through speaking and private parenting coaching sessions. She writes the Middle School Mom column for the Parenting on the Peninsula magazine. She works with parents of 4 – 25 year-old children. Contact Cynthia at bridges2understa.wpstagecoach.com or 650. 679.8138 to have a complementary discovery session about finding solutions to your challenges. http://wp.me/p2TgAe-[/author_info] [/author]