My good friend, Rosalinda Randall, is an etiquette expert. She recently conducted an informal survey asking pre-teens what they considered to be rude behavior, by adults.
From my perspective, too often parents look down on children as not knowing and not wise. I find that children are very aware of what they like and don’t like; of what feels good to them and what doesn’t.
I encourage parents to listen to their kids. If your kids are complaining about your behavior, such as yelling at them which is disrespectful, don’t brush it off. Listen and learn and consider changing.
Here are the results from Rosalinda’s survey with pre-teens:
1. Making out in front of me. (giggle-giggle)
2. Don’t let me speak my mind.
3. They lie to their boss.
4. Not apologizing.
5. Being snarky.
8. They make me say, “please” and “thank you”, but they never do.
9. Not being polite while driving.
10. Taking other people’s ideas. (Yikes!)
12. Saying, “Oh, you’re just a kid, you can’t understand this.”
13. They talk too much at the dinner table and ignore me.
14. Seat me at the “kids table.”
15. Insulting each other behind their backs, to other people.
16. They boss their kids around.
17. Making slurping sounds when they have their coffee.
If you have any comments or questions, please send them to Rosalinda.
Rosalinda also has a great etiquette book called Don’t Burp in the Boardroom that you can buy. Go here to purchase it.
Etiquette and Civility Consultant, Author
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